LETTERS TO STRANGERS
...WORDS I HAVE POSTED PUBLICALLY IN VARIOUS PLACES IN RESPONSE TO OTHERS WORDS...
QUEST
...a friend is a stranger waiting to be met...
The Quest
THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE... (I HOPE...) THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE... (I HOPE...) THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE... (I HOPE...) THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE...
attitude isn't everything,
LETTERS TO STRANGERS
...WORDS I HAVE POSTED PUBLICALLY IN VARIOUS PLACES IN RESPONSE TO OTHERS WORDS...
QUEST
...a friend is a stranger waiting to be met...
The Quest
January 15, 2000
>I'm almost afraid to say some of these things, because I'd rather
>not be accused of being a misogynist. I'll take my chances, I guess.
>It seems to me, that women don't get lonely in the same way men do.
>When I say that I'm lonely, I mean that I feel a desperate need to
>find a female companion. I just want to find that special person (the
>whole person, and nothing but the person). I don't have any big plans
>in mind, or anything. I get the idea that women don't feel the same
>way. It seems as if most of them aren't looking for a man, just to
>have the man himself. It's as if he's a means to an end.
>
>They have this "life plan", and if a man happens to be a part of that,
>fine; if not, fine. I don't need a nice house, or a nice car, or any of
>that materialistic crap. I just want to get by, and have someone to
>share my life with. A lot of people say that men are practical, and
>women are emotional, but I think they've got it backwards. I'm a very
>passionate and impulsive person (and a little bit foolish, at times).
>I'm not a very practical person, and I'm glad. What does PRACTICALITY
>have to do with LOVE, anyway? (I'm sure that someone will tell me!)
>
> If any of you want to disagree with me, go ahead. Just don't call me
>a woman-hater or a misogynist. For one thing, it's not true. For another
>thing, I'm not saying that all women are like this. It just seems to me,
>that a lot of women are. I don't have any scientific proof, or anything.
>
>It's just how things SEEM to me.
Hi... not buying into the material world does put us (meaning you and me as I don't either) in the minority... I've found that I had to compromise the existential ideas in order to find some chance to socialize... for poverty limits freedom to explore most social activities, even if one is happy-as-a-clam with nothing...
the 60's and early 70's saw a surge of non-material ways tried... communes and agricultural communities where people lived by pooling resources and leaving the mainstream of society... but few became self-sustaining enough to grow into a large enough community to provide a population base big enough to grow within itself... most intimate relationships and couples came to the communities as couples or found a mate outside the community...
still, some basic need for money or barter matrials was needed by each member of the community to survive... it's a matter of compromise as I see it... for the world is just a bigger commune... we share, albiet very unequally and unfairly, the resources to survive...
it took some time for me to get past my denial of the need to compromise... to actually have to spend a good portion of my awake time doing something I didn't always want to do every day, just to earn my own independence and freedom to explore socially... seems to stupid and unfair, but this is living in the material world and that's where almost everybody lives... so that's where I've got to get to in order to meet others and have any chance of social fulfillment...
I still find myself very isolated philosophically for most of the people I meet anywhere I go are more dependant on material things than I am... it is very sad, even depressing to know that I've driving a new car and I've drivien an old car and more people approach me when I pull up in a new car... this is part of the reason I have long hair and facial hair, I don't want to attract people only interested in a GQ look and life...
thing is, I can enjoy the glitz and glamour life too... I mean, why do we watch movies?... luxury is a very nice experience... few would turn it away and most who do are looked at kinda funny :)
the best I can do is be happy within myself doing things by myself... and keep doing things out there where other people are... and not get myself down because I'm alone and would rather share...
maybe I look at life kinda life it's an ice cream sundae... I sure would like extra scoops and toppings and even a spoon... and I'd love someone to share it with... but if all I've got is a dab of ice cream on my lonely little finger, I'll enjoy that dab as much as I can...
to all the lonely little fingers out there...
use them well tonight ;)
honest love, ric
but it changes perception...
perception isn't everything,
it just changes everything,
from one point of view...
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