LETTERS TO STRANGERS
...WORDS I HAVE POSTED PUBLICALLY IN VARIOUS PLACES IN RESPONSE TO OTHERS WORDS...
...a friend is a stranger waiting to be met...
Release It (Everybody's Lonely)
THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE... (I HOPE...) THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE... (I HOPE...) THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE... (I HOPE...) THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE...
LETTERS TO STRANGERS
...WORDS I HAVE POSTED PUBLICALLY IN VARIOUS PLACES IN RESPONSE TO OTHERS WORDS...
...a friend is a stranger waiting to be met...
Release It (Everybody's Lonely)
January 17, 2000
Hi Adam... the good news is you're articulating your experience... this is the beginning of understanding... follow the path... figure it out... don't accept no for an answer, the answr is inside... don't follow road signs, just travel your path through your mind...
>Full of fear, hate feeling lonely, want the love, comfort , companionship of
>a girlfriend, but too afraid to take action, Afraid that if I settle for
>what's in front of me I'll mniss out on something better, Afraid to ask a
>girl for fear of rejection, Afraid that God's will may be for me to be
>single forever, but why?
>
answer... you have identified the fears... not face them and ask... what happens if I'm rejected?... do I die?... do I hurt like hell?... do I gt to try again?... something better?... the grass is always greener somewhere else... there's always "something better"... perhaps you are not yet ready inside to commit to one person... so don't... be honest about that... then face the next fear... and if there are others, face them...
>I just...self-pity, feeding on and into itself, self-pity leading to fear,
>leading to more self-pity and so on, Try as I may I can't make sense of
>it, intellectualize it.
>
but you are making sense of it... self-pity... your words explain it well...
when you figure out how to lift the viel of self-pity you'll read your words and say "but I knew all along, how foolish not to have simply stopped" and laughter will follow because you have left it behind...
but first you must find out why you feel sorry for yourself... are you just being lazy about facing your fears?... are you focusing on past failures?... are you simply focusing too must energy on fearing?...
>This is for me, I am afraid of being alone, The writing
>of that statement brings tears to my eyes.
>
tears are the first step... if you don't cry... you'll never heal... please continue - cry it out and feel the self-pity and every feeling until it's released... then what?... do you like yourself?...
>I'm suffering on the inside, I
>try to be useful through the day but I'm still alone at night, I know God is
>with me, but...haha I know what comes after but...I learned today that I
>can plan the plan but I have to let God plan the result. I guess it's that
>old fear of God's will popping up. God, please remove my fears and
>direct my attention to what you would have me be.
>
whatever god you ask, the answer will be - be yourself...
and if you ask how?... the answer will be - be yourself...
and you can walk that circle forever, afraid of being yourself...
or you can face your fears and face yourself...
and learn who you are and what you feel about you...
and that is the first step on path...
>I wrote this basically as a letter to myself, and to God, as I understand
>God, after a long talk with a friend who helped me to see some things
>about myself...I rarely talk about this stuff, because I have to think that
>you all think that I'm A-OK, nothing's wrong with me! How stupid is that?!
>
it is folly to place your self-image in anothers hands...
what others think mean only what you choose it to mean...
what you think matters most, for that is your choice...
be yourself... choose yourself... create yourself...
in the image you have of the person you want to be...
>anyway, I suppose I suffer with loneliness as much as the next guy, so
>that's kinda what this is all about...I'd love to get some feedback...thanks
everybody's lonely... everybody who wants to share and doesn't share enough, that is... and that's a whole lot of people... share words here and you may feel a lessening of loneliness on an intellectual level... and if you give and take more, perhaps on some emotional levels as well... and hopefully you'll learn and grow and face your obstacles and figure out how to overcome them... so you can take what you've learned about yourself and sharing and use it in you life offline... so you can dare to find someone... so you don't have to be as lonely anymore...
there's always hope, honest love, ric
all I got is time, nothing else is mine.
all I want is you and one more tomorrow.
nothing lasts to long, when I leave it's gone.
so I send my mind ahead and hope to follow.
yes, I know I have a lifetime coming,
but I've got it all figured out,
everybody's lonely, everybody's lonely,
everybody's lonely, That's what it's all about.
I've had my share of heartaches, misfortune and mistakes.
occasionally this life has left me battered.
but I can't blame no one else, 'cause what I've done to myself
is the only kind of history that matters.
yes, I know I have a lifetime coming,
but I've got it all figured out,
everybody's lonely, everybody's lonely,
everybody's lonely, that's what it's all about.
now, maybe you'll come with me, and maybe you will stay,
and maybe you'll just watch awhile then wander.
it seems like all the good things in my life just drift away,
but maybe you will stay this time, I wonder.
yes, I know I have a lifetime coming,
but I've got it all figured out,
everybody's lonely, everybody's lonely,
everybody's lonely, that's what it's all about.
~ Harry Chapin ~
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