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Name: Rose Dixon Email: Date: Sunday January 01, 2006 14:26:47 GMT Comments: I am a birth mother. My son was born in 1965 and I loved and cared for him for 4 weeks. He was taken from me when he was 4 weeks old by the catholic church and placed with a couple for adption. I had no say in this matter and was devastated. 39 years later my son found me via the internet and we have had the most wonderful reunion. We are both amazed at the intensity of love that we feel for one another. I am now 40 years later trying to come to terms with the pain inflicted on my by so called 'good' people. |
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Name: Cindy Wells/Truckle Email: Date: Wednesday December 07, 2005 04:45:37 GMT Comments: Im a Natural mom to John Cory
Truckle from Toronto Ontario ...I have been searching since 1995 and have
gotten Nowhere fast..My son was born October 21 1985 and Taken (Not
Relinguished) in 1986 at 17 months old..After going to court to fight the
c.a.s. to get my son back, the worker told me he'd be a crown ward til hes 18
and I could get him back at that time...Hes now 20...I dont know how to
search Archives and stuff so its hard finding what you dont know...I cant
wait til the 18 months is done with and I can move on to find my son that Ive
wanted to hold all his life and wasnt considered worthy enough to do so... |
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Name: Christine Email: Date: Tuesday December 06, 2005 11:10:19 GMT Comments: I am a 32 year old birth mother
who, just days ago, was reunited with my 13 year old daughter. Her life seems
to be mimicing mine at her age. It is through her amazing adoptive parents
that this reunion was possible. This is all so new and there are many
unanswered questions (for all of us) I am hoping some one reunited with a
minor child will read this and email me. I have scoured the internet and have
found nothing regarding this very unique reunion. |
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Name: Tammy Email: Date: Tuesday December 06, 2005 04:16:26 GMT Comments: I did not know that what i have felyt for 19 years was so common.They said I would be fine with time, but I wasn't. I never will be, but at least I am not crazy for feeling this even now. Thank you for telling me it is okay to still hurt this much. I am not able to just forget my son. |
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Name: elizabeth gellatly Email: Date: Saturday November 26, 2005 17:50:06 GMT Comments: I am a birthmother from that time- 1968 was the year for me- and it is very validating to see pieces of my own experience in print. I have written many pages trying to articulate that experience for myself and others. thank you! |
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Name: Sayu Email: Date: Friday November 25, 2005 18:01:59 GMT Comments: Sorry :( |
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Name: loretta ramsey Email: Date: Saturday November 12, 2005 13:22:19 GMT Comments: I have read the guess book and wish everyone best luck in finding there child.god bless!!! im also a bmother looking for a babygirl,erha ann ramsey name at birth.born9-16-86 |
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Name: FRANCYNE Email: Date: Sunday November 06, 2005 19:59:14 GMT Comments: Iam BM looking for my son born 10/29/1969 in Onieda NY and adoption was done though Binghamtion Catholic Charities.I have been searching for 5years and nothing.Your birthname was Steven Micheal.I was 14 at the time and was not given a choice.I love you very much |
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Name: Karen Sconyers Email: Date: Tuesday September 27, 2005 02:57:02 GMT Comments: A month ago, I found my true
family. I want very much to help my true Mom to let go of the pain and hurt
she has carried for 52 years. How can help her? |
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Name: eric Email: Date: Tuesday July 05, 2005 10:02:00 GMT Comments: my girlfriend says we must put our baby up for adooption when it is born. we broke up. she has 2 others she's abanndonned. i hate this. i wannt the baby, nobody thiinks we can keep it annnd raiise it healthy. sorry my keyboard is crap. ii need gods help. help me to save my son god! he is ann iinnocent victim. |
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Name: Luciano Lupesi Boni Email: Date: Tuesday June 28, 2005 13:53:33 GMT Comments: My name is Luciano Lupesi Boni. I
am born on 08 th March 1940 at the old San Giovanni Hospital in Rome called
“Le Celate”. It was exclusively for women who wanted to remain
anonymous, some times giving birth with their faces completely covered.
"Le Celate" or (women who have decided to conceal their faces for
their own personal reasons), belonged to the upper middle-class of Rome.
Their pregnancies were sometimes the result of relatioships with highranking
fascists or influential persons of the upper middle-class. |
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Name: LESSA BROWN Email: Date: Saturday June 04, 2005 23:22:39 GMT Comments: My name is Lessa, I found your e-mail posted that you are searching for adoption information. I am writing to tell you about my experience in searching for my birthmother. I have always known that I was adopted, and yearned to know where I came from. After years of searching myself and only coming to dead ends, I contacted www.givenright.com , and they have changed my life. They were very compassionate and helpful gathering all of my information. I was really surprised how quickly they found my birthmother, they made the first contact with her to break the ice. Amazingly enough, she had been looking for me too. We were reunited two years ago and have created quite a relationship since. I have decided to share my experienced with www.givenright.com because I could not have done it with out them, and am forever grateful You can also reach them at 253-839-3666 |
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Name: Debbie Email: Date: Tuesday May 10, 2005 09:43:45 GMT Comments: There is VERY little help of counsellor in South Africa and websites like yours are most helpful. |
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Name: Loujean Stauffer Miller Email: Date: Sunday May 08, 2005 22:53:16 GMT Comments: Female adoptee DOB May 31, 1958 ISO Siblings & my Bomother who was born sometime in 1930. She may have lived in Oklahoma at one time. SHe had 2 other children born in 1949-50 & 1952-53 who were taken away by a member of her family. She may have been sick or somehow incapable of caring for them. She was divorced from older children's father and remarried to a man who may have worked for the railroad when I was born in 1958 but they were seperated by interfering family members. If any of this sounds familiar please contact me as I have more info. |
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Name: Ann Marie (Barrett) Nicholas Email: Date: Wednesday April 27, 2005 00:06:07 GMT Comments: thank you for expressing all that I went through when I had to give up my son.Its something or someone I can never forget, no matter what my family says, or believes. |
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Name: Jesse Jordan Email: Date: Tuesday April 26, 2005 21:28:09 GMT Comments: Thank you so much for your work.
I have been looking for my daughter for 45 years (without much luck). It is
recent research like yours that had helped me understand my periodic bouts of
depression and patterns of behavior were set when I was pregnant at 16. The
most obvious is a kind of passivity with life, just accepting what IS - even
the unacceptable - because there is nothing I can do to make anything
different. Hopefully, younger women will read and learn about the effects of
giving up a child - get some counseling so they don't waste as much of their
lives as I have still trying to just "forget about it", "move
on with my life", "the baby is better off", "you did the
right thing". You described a hole in one's soul. What a perfect
description. |
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Name: jennifer Email: Date: Thursday March 31, 2005 08:25:23 GMT Comments: Hello, I am e-mailing you to tell
you about our adoption forum. We invite you to join us. |
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Name: karen Email: Date: Sunday February 13, 2005 16:36:34 GMT Comments: I recently have been contacted by my daughter born 1965, I was surprised at all of the feelings that re-surfaced when this happened(and none were good). On reading your articles I realize that I am not alone with this. Unfortunately I live in a small town with no self help group available. Anyone out there have tips on how to proceed with this reunion? |
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Name: Joann Palazzolo Email: Date: Saturday February 05, 2005 05:52:13 GMT Comments: Thank you Judy for giving my pain a voice. I loved your entire thesis and I am represented all over it. I'm a birth mother (daughter, Sept, 1970), forced to relinquish my daughter to adoption. Best wishes, Joann, Michigan |
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Name: Mirah Riben Email: Date: Sunday January 09, 2005 20:08:19 GMT Comments: Anyone interested in more
information, please cotnact me at: |
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Name: Mirah Riben Email: Date: Sunday January 09, 2005 20:07:11 GMT Comments: I wish to propose the following to all mothers and fathers involved in – touched by – adoption in their lives in any way. It is a PROPOSAL for a new group, NOT another support group or online chat or discussion group. Plenty of those already exist to serve that need. Nor is it one to replace any existing group or organization in any way, but rather one with a very clear and specific purpose. One that I envision as becoming, possibly in the future if it grows to that point, a lobbying group. I see other grass roots mothers groups, such as MADD, as a role model because they rose up to meet a need to save the lives of theirs and others’ children, and are succeeding. |
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Name: Lori Email: xalleekatx@yahoo.com or Lori202@cox.net Date: Saturday November 27, 2004 02:48:18 GMT Comments: I am a FEMALE adoptee...BORN JUNE
10, 1961 in LOS ANGELES,CA. I was adopted in San Bernardino, CA @ 6 days old
through S.Bernardino County Welfare. Recently learned through papers from
agency that My BIRTHMOTHER was born in 1942 and was from WISCONSIN. If any of
this is familiar to you or someone you know please contact. Would very much
love to have any contact and to have the chance to know the beautiful woman |
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Name: renee rutz corbin Email: Date: Thursday November 25, 2004 15:59:11 GMT Comments: STILL LOOKING FOR CHRISOPHER SCOTT RUTZ BORN IN CLEVELAND OHIO,1970 OCT.17 AT DEPAUL SOCIET FOR UNWED MOTHERS, CLOSED ADOPTION,DO NOT KNOW IF REAL BIRTH CERT. WAS SENT TO ASHTABULA,CO. |
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Name: Erika Faulkner-Wnek Email: Date: Monday June 21, 2004 22:50:34 GMT Comments: All 3 of my children were adopted. 2 by my mother and my baby by his aunt who took him and moved away. i only saw him twice and i just can't seem to get my life together. I was a heavy drug user but i am now clean, i had no idia what was going on at the time and was forced into signing papers i never read or without anyone to explain them to me. i don't know what to do i feel so empty inside and i am not sure how long i can go on living. i am just so empty |
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Name: Tammy Email: Date: Friday April 23, 2004 19:36:20 GMT Comments: Looking for birth family. I was born July 21 1972 in Kitchener Ontario. Please contact! |
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Name: Barbara Richard (Naish) Email: Date: Friday March 26, 2004 23:27:12 GMT Comments: I gave up my son in Dec. 1964 in Ottawa, Ontario. I was 16 and totally dominated by my mother. I received no councilling and have not been able to have a proper relationship since. I have not found my son yet and hav e not been able to get on with my life even after all these years. If he reads this please contact me - I have never stopped loving you or your father. |
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Name: Shirley King Email: Date: Thursday March 18, 2004 02:00:54 GMT Comments: How would I go about finding a son I gave up in 1967 in a California state adoption? |
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Name: GUY CURRY (ONEAL) Email: Date: Wednesday February 18, 2004 21:37:52 GMT Comments: I AM LOOKING FOR MY SIBLINGS.AND MOTHER.CAN YOU HELP? I HAVE NAMES AND BIRTH DATES OF MY SIBLINGS. |
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Name: Debra Pinner Dickinson Email: Date: Monday January 26, 2004 00:17:04 GMT Comments: When My Daughters Grandparents
Forced Me To Sign The Adoption Papers I Had No Legal Counsel. I Was Young And
Didn't Know What My Rights Were. Not Only Was I Lied To By Their Grandparents
But So were My Daughters. But They Were Always Supposed To Be A Part Of My
Life. They Told Me That If I Didn't Let Them Adopt The Girls And We Went To
Court They Would Never Let Me See Them Again. They Lied Then Moved Them Out
Of State To Pavo Georgia. |
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Name: Debra Pinner Dickinson Email: Date: Monday January 26, 2004 00:07:37 GMT Comments: I Couldn't Get Everything In My
First Message. But The Last Place I Traced Them To Was The Church Of God Home
For Children Which Is Now The Greatsmokeymountain Home For Children In Seviersville
Tennessee. Before That They Lived In Pavo Georgia. I Got The Number To The
Home And Called But They Wouldn't Tell Me Anything. I Recently E-mailed The
Director There Paul Duncan Who Said That There Was Nothing He Could Do That
The Girls Were Grown Now But That If He Saw Them He Would Give Them My E-mail
Address. |
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Name: Debra Pinner Dickinson Email: Date: Monday January 26, 2004 00:01:56 GMT Comments: I Have Been Searching For My
Daughters For Many Years. My Story Is Proablly Different Than Some But Just
As Painful And Heart Breaking. There Names At Birth Was Michelle Lynn Burnett
04/30/73 Stacy Ann Burnett 06/17/75 And Rebecca Lynn Burnett 09/08/76 Born At
orange Memorial Hospital In Orlando Florida. Which Is Now Orlando Regional
Hospital. |
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Name: Joann Angelini or Jennifer Franco Email: Date: Saturday January 24, 2004 04:13:03 GMT Comments: Looking for son William P. Bader
born 1983 in Hinesville Georgia |
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Name: DEBBIE RAU Email: Date: Wednesday January 21, 2004 15:14:12 GMT Comments: I really dont know where to start,but Iam trying to find my husbands birthmom,he was adopted in michigan his adopted name is lawrence rau born in 1954 he was adopted in michigan when he was 7 months old we have been married 24 years and have 2 boys 25 & 20 we whould love to find her. his adoped parents are both deceased, he is missing so much maybe we can find her? |
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Name: hazel Email: Date: Sunday January 11, 2004 14:13:11 GMT Comments: Thank you for this web site it
has helped me understand i am not alone .i recently made contact with my
daughter and it brought back a lot of unresolved feelings.I had my daughter
in 1974 and i had very little suport it was a taboo subject |
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Name: Emma Crowely Email: Date: Thursday November 27, 2003 21:32:56 GMT Comments: Searching for son lost to adoption. Anyone who was at Florence Crittendon home Washington,DC?????? |
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Name: Sheila Email: Date: Friday October 10, 2003 20:28:38 GMT Comments: I am a birthmom, My daughter turned 23 yesterday. Happy Birthday to my "Angel". We made contact in July 2002 and every day knowing her has been a blessing. I just wish I could get over the guilt and pain that I have in my heart for not keeping her and loving her as a mom should......But the years of searching and all the pain and loss which I suffered was worth it when I saw her smile and held her close...Now if I could just find "Forgiveness" in myself......Good Luck to all of you searching.... |
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Name: james GOOD Email: Date: Sunday October 05, 2003 17:56:04 GMT Comments: Hello, |
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Name: Roselodge Email: Date: Saturday October 04, 2003 09:10:51 GMT Comments: You can't stop a mother's heart. You can't end her love. The creator gave the children to us, because the creator thinks we women are better. We women only do what we can do, but we do WHATEVER we can! Mother Earth gives us all she's got, one little apple can make 4 or 5 trees! She is not chintsey! This is why the Earth and the Creator particularly like all mothers, from alligators to humans. Mother Earth and The Creator also understand a mother's grief, and how hard it is for women. Because men are knuckle heads!This is how we Dakota see it. We have lost many children to adoption. We have cried a long time! |
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Name: Susan Boone Email: Date: Tuesday September 02, 2003 07:26:50 GMT Comments: In 1963, I put a beautiful baby
Boy up for adoption! |
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Name: Kim Kurtti Email: Date: Saturday August 30, 2003 01:21:27 GMT Comments: I am a birthmother, and i'm proud. I just wish my family would accept and support my difficult decision. My Adia Lynn was born on July 30, 2002. |
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Name: Andrew Pelek...... Email: Date: Tuesday August 26, 2003 18:29:54 GMT Comments: I’m a 34 year old Adoptee
& in the process of tracing. |
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Name: Brenda Email: Date: Wednesday July 16, 2003 00:37:44 GMT Comments: I just gave my son up for adoption on July 11th 2003. His birthday is the 9th, 2003. I am lucky enough to be in an extremly open adoption that includes some visiting, lots of phone calls, letters, and emails. Still it does not make it easier, if anything, it is harder because I know where he is, who he is with, and still I know that I cannot have him. The birth parents even gave him the middle name of Brendan (named after me, my name is Brenda). They live so close to me, and I thank god for bringing tem to me to give my son what he deserves and I couldn't give him at this time in my life. If anyone wants to talk to me, e mail me! |
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Name: Ruth Katz Erlich Email: Date: Thursday July 10, 2003 14:22:48 GMT Comments: I, too, gave up my son in Florida in 1964. It was a private adoption though a physician. I was 23 at the time. My life, although I have gone on and had married and divorced, I will for the rest of my life wonder where he is, if he is well and how he feels about my giving him up. My two girls know about their brother and want to find him, but I don't want to cause him any pain. Some days are better than others, today is not a good day. God bless you if you have found your child. I can only hope that he will try to find me. My love for him has never changed, with all my heart I think of him every day. |
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Name: Mary Email: Date: Tuesday July 01, 2003 02:33:15 GMT Comments: I am a reunited birthmom, 7 yrs! It was awesome at the start, but awkward now. Knowing him, the son I lost, is so painful and yet wonderful. I wish I'd had better support during the early years of reunion, maybe things would be better now. I don't know if the pain ever goes away. Bittersweet is the only way to describe it. I try to focus on my other children and grandchildren and pray. I want to connect with other birthmothers in my area, especially the older ones who are still in hiding. Getting the truth of who we are and what we've been through out in the open helps. Secrets and shame can kill us slowly! |
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Name: Amy Walthall Email: Date: Sunday June 29, 2003 18:03:37 GMT Comments: Being a birthmother who gave up
my child at the age of 16, I live with much grief of the unknown of what
happened to my child. It has been 22 years since I gave up my child and I
have still not been able to hold or see my child. I'm hoping that someday I
will heal and have the reunion with my birth son. |
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Name: Kathryn Email: Date: Saturday June 28, 2003 19:06:08 GMT Comments: My mother put her baby up for adoption
when she was seventeen,shes now fifty-two. they told her it was a boy she
told them she would not sign the papers until she got to hold her baby.when
she went to take off the dieper they took him from her. She often wonders if
it was really a girl.He was born in Salt Lake,Utah area, May 22 or 23,about
1969? they went through the LDS church. when I found out I had a brother out
there some where i might never know I instantly felt like I had lost
something.I want to find him but how would i start if i don't even know his
name? My mom (his birth mom)name when she had him was Patricia Lynn Woods.her
last name is now Kallas. If anyone could help me by any information on how to
start,phone numbers,people to talk to anything please e-mail me at KaKallas@aol.com.
Its been really hard for my mom not Knowing how hes been,if you are out ther
we love you |
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Name: Kim Warner Email: Date: Friday June 27, 2003 04:24:34 GMT Comments: I have watched my mom suffer for years. As I read this my heart broke for her.... she is the birthmother of a son (my brother) born on Christmas Day in Richmond,Va (196?) Birthname: Colbert Wayne ? I wish I could find and relieve her soul of the pain it has been tormentd with all these years Wherever you are WE LOVE YOU |
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Name: Genelda Cornelison Email: Date: Sunday May 18, 2003 03:27:43 GMT Comments: My son was born Dec 1964, I gave him up for adoption because at the time I had no way of providing for him and me and my family was told that was the best thing to do since I already had a daughter born in 1962. I still can not forgive myself for what I did. It was wrong for me but perhaps it works for some. |
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Name: karissa Elizabeth Ann Lowell Email: Date: Tuesday May 13, 2003 22:29:25 GMT Comments: This is so true. Adoption and Reliquishing your child for adoption has serious side-effects. I suffer from both. I am an adult adoptee and birth"mother". I suffer from AdultAdoptee Syndrome. |
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Name: Pamela A. Lowman Email: Date: Sunday April 20, 2003 20:43:37 GMT Comments: This study is very interesting.....maybe it can help birthmothers.. |
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Name: Lauri Greis Email: Date: Thursday March 27, 2003 16:49:17 GMT Comments: I am a 49 year-old adoptee who would like to thank my birthmother for giving me a wonderful life. From what was told to me about her situation, adoption was the most rational solution to her-and therefore my-dilemma. I have not pursued a search because I have no desire to interfere with a dear woman who may not have told her present family about her past. Remember, things were different back in 1953! In any event, I hope this message brings comfort to her and to the many others who are uncertain about their choice. |
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Name: Wendy Bradshaw Email: Date: Tuesday March 18, 2003 21:59:20 GMT Comments: I had a daughter in the summer of 1967. I blocked out that time of my life because of all the pain and hurt. Thats why the month is foggy and the day of the birth is some where in my head but can't bring it to the surface. This was in Tacoma Washington at Tacoma General Hospital. The horrible treatment that the hospital gave me was not suitable for any person. I want to find my daughter so bad but where do I start? The only reason I know that I had a dauthter was because the doctor's office by mistake sent my parents the bill, which was to be sent to the adoption parents. Please give me some advise as where to start. Thanks a heart that needs to be healed, Wendy Bradshaw |
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Name: Kathy Email: Date: Tuesday March 18, 2003 16:41:27 GMT Comments: I'm discovering so many tremendous sites for firstmoms. They have inspired me to begin again to search for my firstborn son. His birthday is 12/21/66. He was born at Good Samaritan Hospital in Cincinnati Ohio. I was living at St. Joseph's Infant & Maternity Home at the time. His adoption was arranged through the Catholic Social Services in Columbus Ohio. I named him Michael William. There is a huge void in my heart. |
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Name: Amy Email: Date: Tuesday March 11, 2003 03:38:00 GMT Comments: I would jsut like to say, that I
think the site is amazing. My |
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Name: tracy rauch Email: Date: Friday March 07, 2003 23:17:34 GMT Comments: I want to find my older sister,whom my mom had when whe was not married yet. Where do i start? We are from Winnipeg Manitoba Trixie1972@hotmail.com |
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Name: JOY Email: Date: Saturday March 01, 2003 06:10:34 GMT Comments: LOOKING FOR BIRTHMOTHER.....FEB 85 BOY..EMAIL ME THANKS. |
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Name: Lisa Email: Date: Thursday February 27, 2003 16:12:01 GMT Comments: My name is Lisa. I am 36 years old. I have been recently been blessed with my second child, a baby boy. My mother had a unusual reaction to the birth of this babyboy and I just found out yesterday why she reacted the way she did.... she gave up a baby boy when she was just 16 years old and he was 4 months old. My heart broke for her. She has kept this secret locked up inside for so long. While we were talking about what happened she told me that not a day goes by that she does not think of him. He would be 52 years old now. How do I start to look for him? Where do I begin? Could anyone help me mend this wonderful womans heart and give her some peace? |
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Name: Kim Email: Date: Tuesday February 25, 2003 15:14:44 GMT Comments: My husband is an adoptee and was
born in Memphis, TN on 12/7/1965. |
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Name: Rhonda Email: Date: Tuesday February 11, 2003 22:01:13 GMT Comments: I am an adoptee and a birthmother. I've been looking for my bmom for two years. This site has great meaning for me since I'm on both sides. I was born in Tulsa, OK on 01/04/1973 my birthname was Anna Marie. Thanks!! |
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Name: Kathy Lord Rouse Email: Date: Sunday February 02, 2003 13:14:36 GMT Comments: Looking for birth son.Born
7-14-81 in Jacksonville,Fl. at |
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Name: Sherry Email: Date: Friday January 24, 2003 15:57:37 GMT Comments: I came across this research project while surfing the net for research articals regarding relinquishment. I needed five (5) articals for a paper I'm writing for school. I too am a birthmother. |
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Name: karyn Email: Date: Tuesday January 14, 2003 22:49:17 GMT Comments: hi my name is karyn and I have been searching for many years for my husbands birth parents. Iam begining to wonder if anyone is looking for him i have been on every adoption web page and ancestor and genology page there has to be something or someone out there his name is mark his adoption papers say his birth name was michael john Dumas born march 29th 1960 at st. mary's hosp for unwed mothers in syracuse N.Y. in onadaga county there he was given to catholic charities in ogdensburg N.Y. then adopted to a nice family in watertown N.Y. both adopted parents are deceased. he has brown hair brown eyes 5ft 11in thank you any info would be greatly appreciated |
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Name: Wendy Cirinelli (birth name was...CATHERINE MARY POWER Email: Date: Tuesday December 31, 2002 01:52:49 GMT Comments: I was born OCTOBER 30th 1967 in
ST.JOHN's NEWFOUNDLAND CANADA..my name was Catherine MARY POWER...My BIRTH MOTHER
WAS BORN IN 1941, (99%sure) I was left with catholic orphans and adopted at
the age of 7months, I was taken to NEW JERSEY and raised by LOVING
"parents" I have had a great life, they gave me the sky, I just
have that same feeling ALL ADOPTED people have...A feeling of "missing
something" I need to know who I AM, WHO I LOOK LIKE? I dont need to
start a relationship, if it is NOT WELCOME,..Just need to feel complete!
ANYONE OUT THERE CAN HELP ME! :) |
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Name: Wendy Annette Hurt Thomas Hollon Email: Date: Sunday December 22, 2002 23:11:03 GMT Comments: My daughter Tina Michele Louise Hurt was taken from me in Gallatin TN in 1984 by a social worker by the name of Penny Porter. There was a big misunderstanding. She would be 21 years of age. Her birthday is December 19, 1981. I would love to meet her and let her know that I have been looking for her ever since she has been gone. Every time I would pass a lille girl with blonde hair and blue eyes I would turn and look back. I miss her so much and would like to tell her all the heart aches I have had looking for her I love her very much! |
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Name: slwtfe Email: Date: Monday November 18, 2002 20:38:44 GMT Comments: Born July 25, 1965 In? Birth mother went through Big Sisters league of Los Angeles, CA, Adopted parents went through another adoption agency. Mother left me at hospital. Desert Springs Hospital. Please contact me if you have any info on situation. Love to find out about each other. Oh yea! I favor my birth Dad by the info I have. That's if you wanted to know!!! |
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Name: Thomas Edward Miller Email: Date: Thursday November 14, 2002 19:59:32 GMT Comments: Agency: Onondaga County
Department of Social Services |
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Name: barbara mason Email: Date: Friday November 01, 2002 00:25:12 GMT Comments: i need help tring to fine birth son for 14years his birth name ronald wayne mason dob 2-22-1973 in st. louis mo. at the old depaul hospital.any info please e-mail me chrguf658@aol.com |
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Name: Veronica Krueger Email: Date: Thursday October 31, 2002 02:13:11 GMT Comments: I am an adoptee and a birthmother. |
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Name: Ray Buffer Email: Date: Tuesday October 29, 2002 08:13:48 GMT Comments: Your research has broadened my
perspective of the obstacles encountered by birthmothers. My relinquishment
happened in 1969. Thanks for your work. |
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Name: Vida Jean - From downunder Australia Email: Date: Tuesday October 22, 2002 12:51:58 GMT Comments: Hello! |
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Name: Sandy Budy Michel Email: Date: Wednesday October 02, 2002 19:55:57 GMT Comments: This site is the best tool I've
come across in a long time for understanding what birthmothers go through.
Thank you, Judy, from the bottom of my heart. |
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Name: GEORGINA M. MACDONALD Email: Date: Tuesday August 20, 2002 09:31:07 GMT Comments: MY DAUGHTER FOUND ME 3 YRS AGO - SHE FOUND OUT WHAT SHE WANTED TO KNOW AN NO LONGER WISHES TO SEE/TALK TO ME. PAIN - HURT - ANGER ARE ALL THERE. I LOVE HER BUT TO BE HONEST DO NOT LIKE HER. AM I THE ONLY ONE THIS HAS HAPPENED TO? |
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Name: Terri Boulton Email: Date: Monday August 12, 2002 02:49:57 GMT Comments: My daughters are looking for
their "birth grandparents". Their father was adopted as a baby. He was
born in the General Hospital in Calgary, Oct. 10/63 with his first two given
names "Micheal Terry". I believe his birthmother was 16 years old
at the time. His name is now Paul Alexander Barkauskas. I would like to
retrieve medical history information from his birthparents, and my one
daughter, who looks very much like her father, would like to meet her
grandparents. The two girls would very much like to have an opportunity to
meet one or both of their "birth grandparents". Please help if you
can. Thank you. |
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Name: Judianne Email: Date: Friday July 19, 2002 00:23:41 GMT Comments: Hi, I am a birthmother and I believe
that my daughter may have found me - she sounds like me - we share the same
allergies to meds and bees - and she even looks like me and my other
daughters ... we hope to have a face to face in less than a month... wish me
luck and I will return - |
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Name: Kadee Email: Date: Thursday July 18, 2002 12:39:29 GMT Comments: Birthmothers, PLEASE overcome any guilt or anything you may feel. I am an adoptee who was reunited on Dec. 21, 2001. I was able to get my records open due to having MS and found her, We spoke for the first time on that date--12-21-01, She PASSED AWAY JAN 10,2002! We had 3 weeks to tell each other how we loved and missed each other. I wanted a hug more then anything but we lived in different states and planned a face to face in summer. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT- There are lots of adoptees that hold no grudges, we just want your love now, especially if we were adopted to abusive homes. I wish she had known how to search or that I would have overcome my fear of abandonment and searched also so we had more time. each day that goes by is one less you'll be reunited. GO FOR IT-- YOUR KIDS ARE WAITING!! |
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Name: MB Email: Date: Thursday July 18, 2002 01:48:09 GMT Comments: I am an adoptee who found your site. I recently found my birthmother and we connected via email. I don't know what or if anything will become of it. I can accept whatever will happen - I am just so happy that my bmom had the courage to tell me she was my birthmom, send me some important medical and share a picture. I'd so much like to meet her one day and perhaps become friends...but I can accept it if she chooses not to want to do this. Thanks for the research on birthmothers. I have read many books on adoptees but there was not as much literature about birthmothers. Society has no idea about the truth of adoption for the birthmothers/fathers, adoptees, or adoptive parents. I had no idea myself about the truth and believed things that I was told that were not truth. Thank you Judy and everyone else out there for letting the truth shine through. |
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Name: Amy Email: Date: Wednesday July 10, 2002 16:46:09 GMT Comments: Thank you Judy!! Your courage to
pursue and share is precious. |
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Name: Lela B Email: Date: Thursday July 04, 2002 00:19:39 GMT Comments: I am the presistent daughter in law!
Nothing in my life brings me more happiness than seeing my husband and his
mother hug that first time and the smiles they both have on there faces in
all the pictures! We are living the Dream and it is great! More family more
love! Life is grand! |
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Name: jan hanson-beardslee Email: Date: Wednesday July 03, 2002 14:44:08 GMT Comments: I have been reunited with my son after 35 years thanks to the persistence of my new daughter-in-law. I never realized I had the option of reaching out to find him until recently. I now have grandchildren and my two 'younger' sons have found an older brother. I will read your book with delight. |
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Name: Diane Email: Date: Wednesday July 03, 2002 06:17:13 GMT Comments: I have not completely read Judy's message but know that I have been looking for my son, born 12/9/65, St. Lukes Hospital, Boise, Idaho, a private adoption arranged by Dr. Franklin David, for many years. The records of this adoption are lost, hidden, whatever and no one seems to be able or willing to help. I have always suffered alone, but realize now that I have not been alone, just in the dark by myself. Hope that prayers and with some good luck, will be reunited with my son, who is with me everyday of my life. |
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Name: Robin Email: Date: Saturday June 29, 2002 10:53:12 GMT Comments: My partner is an adoptee, and we have been considering adoption. Something deep inside of me called to the pain of the birthmother. I just had this feeling that no one was talking about the overwhelming loss. I couldn't see how someone could carry a child, and give them up with ease. I don't want to contribute to this pain. We were thinking about international adoption, and I had this concern that these women were being coerced into giving away their children. I know there are many open adoptions now, what is the state of things now? |
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Name: Sarah Jordan Email: Date: Sunday May 12, 2002 23:03:30 GMT Comments: As a bm, I've heard a lot about how bad protection for bms was in the 60s, and how much better it is today. This is flatly not true. Despite all the "protections" supposedly available, I was denied counseling, and not informed of the nature of the documents I was signing. I was continually assured I was at no risk of losing my daughter, and I would eventually see the wisdom of adoption. Yet I had to sign 'medical documents' right after the birth and have not been able to get her back. She will be a year old this week, and I have yet to see court. I am 24, married and in college. I had a lot of concerns about myself as a mother, which I was advised were not normal, but reasons to give her up. I think this is kidnapping, and am appalled at the lack of resources for bms, or the possibilities of recourse in a case like mine. For the last year, my life has been a wzalking nightmare. |
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Name: Judy Email: Date: Thursday April 25, 2002 22:28:35 GMT Comments: I applaud your courage to tackle such a research project. It was most therapeutic for you I am sure. As a birthmother, I appreciate the voices of those who answered you questionaire. The hole left by relinquishment is never filled is it, even in the best of reunions. This is the burden we birthmothers take to the grave of never being able to fill the hole or not feel the pain of loss. Thank you for doing this study. |
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Name: Kathy C. Email: Date: Sunday April 21, 2002 21:19:29 GMT Comments: For over twenty years I've grieved the loss of my only child, my son, who was lost to adoption in 1978. Trying to get some help and support has been a nightmare. Thank you, for the information in "Birthmother Research Project." |
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Name: Susan Bethea Email: Date: Wednesday April 10, 2002 10:01:43 GMT Comments: I am a recent birthmom of a five
month old girl. I have started a community in MSN for open adoption birthmoms
to give support to each other both past and present. |
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Name: Moira Kathleen (Kathie) Crouch Email: Date: Tuesday April 09, 2002 21:13:24 GMT Comments: Thank you for posting "BIRTHMOTHER RESEARCH PROJECT". As a birthmother who gave up her daughter four days after her birth in 1966 and who has not yet found her child, I am still dealing with the pain and anguish that has not lessened. |
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Name: cathy Email: Date: Tuesday April 09, 2002 19:07:09 GMT Comments: i found 2 children and it was not a good thing..while i was ready they were not..their adoptions were to abusive homes..the very thing i was trying to save them from |
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Name: Karen Cayford Email: Date: Sunday April 07, 2002 05:33:42 GMT Comments: I, too, "accidentally" found your Birthmother Research Project while desperately trying to find some support out there. I gave up my son in 1985; I was 26 at the time; the birthfather was black/married; I was white/single. I lived in Texas. I felt my child would suffer not having 2 parents. And that was the line I was fed. Now I am full of rage, anger at my parents, the maternity home counselor, the whole adoption system. Thank you for your immense courage in undertaking this project. Without my Lord, I would not be alive today. |
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Name: Darlene Email: Date: Sunday March 31, 2002 07:51:00 GMT Comments: I "accidentially" found this site and it is amazing to me that after 7 years since my reunion with my son, I see how I'm still so affected by the relinquishment. I am prepared to do further healing and I'm ever so thankful that I found this site and look forward to joining a support group of birthmothers. Thank you for your work. |
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Name: leanna Email: Date: Wednesday March 27, 2002 18:13:48 GMT Comments: iso birth parents born march 25,1970 in Vancouver bc |
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Name: Dorine Akey (Maxwell) Email: Date: Monday March 25, 2002 20:55:04 GMT Comments: My name is Dorine and I am
looking for my daughter |
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Name: TODD COMER Email: Date: Saturday March 16, 2002 18:06:14 GMT Comments: I am looking for my birth mother. I was born in wilmington north carolina on 8-18-71. Mom if you are out there and you read this please touch base with me. I am not looking for anything from you just what is missing from this hole that has eaten away at me for years. I know I have at least one sister out there to so please contact me. |
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Name: Donna Email: Date: Monday March 11, 2002 18:23:02 GMT Comments: I am searching for my birth
mother. I was born in fairfax, virginia on july 15, 1965. "this stirring
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Name: Kathie Ann Kniffin Email: Date: Saturday March 02, 2002 20:38:28 GMT Comments: I am loking 4 my sister. Robin Frances D.O.B. 6 June 66. You were adopted either Oct 66 or Nov 66. Out of New London conn.you were a very sick baby and there was 5 of us at home. She misses u terribly and she is sick. I hope u reach us soon. We all love u sis. |
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Name: barbara Schaefer Email: Date: Saturday February 23, 2002 21:51:37 GMT Comments: Search for birthmother of my son, born 29 Apr 1965 at the Martha Washington in Milwaukee (Wauwatosa-Cedar St) WI. Son anxious to know geneology and medical. |
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Name: Teresa A. Sheppard Curtis Email: Date: Tuesday February 05, 2002 20:48:00 GMT Comments: I am a birthmother having given birth to a girl, 9/20/1965, St. Joseph Hospital, Pierce County, Tacoma, Washington. I had not stopped to think that I was not the only one woman in extreme pain for so many years. Your project has enlightened me to why I've always felt disfunctional and not deserving of many things. I am trying to understand myself, but it is difficult with the hole in my soul and in my heart and my pain. I am starting my search for my daughter now. Thank you for sharing. |
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Name: kelly Email: Date: Monday January 28, 2002 03:35:11 GMT Comments: hi have just started communicating with my birhthmother. i am 45 years old.. i am trying so hard to help her understand that she is not a bad person for doing what she was told to do... she has such guilt feelings... i would love to talk to birth mothers that might be able to shed some light on this for me.. |
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Name: Sheila Ann Email: Date: Saturday January 05, 2002 21:41:09 GMT Comments: Judy thank you so much for this wonderful site. I am a birthmother who for the last three years has been reunited with my beautiful daughter. She was coerced from me when I was sent to a Florence Crittenton Home in Terre Haute, Indiana. If anyone from the FCH in the year of 1961 is still around I would love to talk to them. Even under such dire circumstances we did form many friendships and shared so many dreams of finding a way to keep our child with us. But back then we didn't have a chance having no idea what our rights were or that we even had any. I thank God every day that He blessed me with my birthdaughter twice in my life. God Bless All of You, Sheila Ann |
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Name: Sloan Bland Email: Date: Tuesday September 25, 2001 05:30:36 GMT Comments: I found the son I gave up for adoption last year after 33 years of looking. He was born in 1967. I got no counseling, just lies and more lies. Everything was fine for awhile and now I have no contact with him at all and don't have a clue as to why. He and his adopted family just withdrew! And I and my family are left wondering why? |
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Name: Brenda Email: Date: Wednesday April 11, 2001 01:35:54 GMT Comments: Thank you for starting this site, it is awful how much it
hurts to give up your child...I did 23 yrs ago. It was by far the hardest
thing i have EVER had to do. But God is good, i have reconciled with him 4
days ago. He wants to meet me, maybe this summer! Thank you, Brenda Name: Mary S Email: Date: Thursday December 27, 2001 21:01:32 GMT Comments: I just viewed a few pieces of
Kelly's artwork, Shattered Reality and Grief......reminds me of artwork my
firstborn had painted, which I saw at her memorial service. She took a gun
and ended her life. I had felt such a strong desire to take down my own walls
of defences and to let her really know me as a person, but I waited too long
and now my opportunity is lost forever, and so is her opportunity for peace.
My daughter's artwork depicted featureless faces, and a sillouette with a
heart bleeding down her body and never ending. I'm still trying to write to
her mom, and express my sympathy for their loss. I am so grateful for the
love and care they provided her, and so disappointed that even after 20
years, I still didn't have myself together enough to not be ashamed to let
her know me intimately. I am glad this site is here to help us all understand
our personal traumas. Name: Diane Kiper Email: Date: Wednesday November 28, 2001 18:25:44 GMT Comments: I am making copies of your thesis
for every member of my family to read! I want every member of my extended
family to read it because it so clearly and poignantly validates my sister's
trauma and pain since her baby's adoption in 1969. Thank you. Name: Tina Email: Date: Wednesday October 31, 2001 16:45:41 GMT Comments: I too am a birthmother of a
daughter born April 18, 1972. She recently found me and we have been getting
to know each other and your research project was really good for me to read
to understand that instead of being all alone trying to sort out all my
anger, my fears and my pain, I really have lots of others that share my
unique kind of pain. Thank you for taking the time to first of all do this
project and secondly to share it with everyone. Sincerely, Tina Firks Name: Meg Braun Email: Date: Monday October 29, 2001 14:50:46 GMT Comments: Mom, where are you? I was born
July 1, 1965 at Willows Maternity Hospital in KCMO. I don't want to say too
much about my adoption but it has been very difficult. My adoptive mother is
an alcholic and has frankly caused a lot of problems in my life. I am trying
to heal. I guess I'm hoping that finding you might help. Name: Kathy Email: Date: Thursday October 04, 2001 14:35:34 GMT Comments: My birthmother is closing in on
70. I have been looking Name: Catherine Houdek Email: Date: Wednesday October 03, 2001 20:34:58 GMT Comments: I have an open adoption and have
visited my son several times. The only thing I carry stashed deeep in my soul
is the grief and I've become numb. Any suggestions how to deal with the grief
personally without going to counseling? Name: Sloan Bland Email: Date: Tuesday September 25, 2001 05:30:36 GMT Comments: I found the son I gave up for
adoption last year after 33 years of looking. He was born in 1967. I got no
counseling, just lies and more lies. Everything was fine for awhile and now I
have no contact with him at all and don't have a clue as to why. He and his
adopted family just withdrew! And I and my family are left wondering why? Name: Sandra Willis Email: Date: Sunday September 16, 2001 22:16:29 GMT Comments: I am looking for other
birthmothers in my position. I had a child with very severe birth defects. I
could not care for her the way she needed and I had to relinquish her. I have
always known where she was and we have had contact though not for a few years
now. She is 22 now. I really need to talk to someone in the same situation.
Her foster parents could not love her any more if she was their child by
birth, and mostly it has been a good thing for her. But I am so hurting
inside. I really need to talk to someone who understands first hand and may
be able to help me. The pain and guilt have not decreased over the years, in
fact they have increased. When I talk about her I am upset for days afterward
sometimes. It is a very complex situation and I will be so thankful if anyone
can give me some advise. Name: Rosemary Email: Date: Tuesday September 11, 2001 14:13:34 GMT Comments: A most beneficial thesis...gratitude
and congratulations. Name: STEVE COLLETTE Email: Date: Sunday September 09, 2001 15:18:44 GMT Comments: ISO MARTHA JOANE WARNICK (maiden
name). She was born in BONAPARTE, IOWA. I know she lived in Sioux City, Iowa
in 1953. I was born CARL WAYNE WARNICK on Nov. 3, 1953 at 5:30 pm in St.
Joseph hosp. (now called Mercy hosp.) Any help in my search would be very
greatfull. Name: Elizabeth L, McLean Email: Date: Monday September 03, 2001 23:23:54 GMT Comments: Thank you so much for all the
work you did with your research. It helps me to know that I am not alone and
validates my feelings. Name: Carole Weber Email: Date: Tuesday August 21, 2001 18:38:46 GMT Comments: Today is my first grandson's
birthday. He is fourteen. I needed to say even though birthparents go through
tremendous emotions, I was curious why the birth-grandparents are seldom
mentioned. The parents of the teen-aged pregnant daughter are typically very
young (I was 39 years old) and I have frequently searched the internet for
some information for my daughter as well as myself. I am just guessing that
information for the grandparents would be supportive emotionally also. Thanks
for listening. Happy Birthday to Andrew with love and tears - Grandma. Name: Leonne Willie Email: Date: Thursday August 16, 2001 00:08:04 GMT Comments: hi my name is Leonne Willie It
was Leonne Dubeau before i got married Iam trying to fine my daughter that i
gave up in Oct.13.1969 born in toronto father is east india and me french
canadian iamchopeing to fine her and to let her no that she has a sister and
a newphe how is 4 years old now Name: Anita Lee DeVinney formerly known as Maria Teresa Scaglione Email: Date: Wednesday August 08, 2001 04:34:55 GMT Comments: Looking for my birth mother. Her
name is Maria F. Scaglione. I was born in Rome, Italy on December 6, 1960.
Please help me find her. I would like to know my medical history. Name: Tom Kovacs Email: Date: Saturday August 04, 2001 04:05:50 GMT Comments: I am looking for my birth parents. I was born on January 9,1969 at Community Hospital Indianapolis, Indiana. All I know is my birth mother possibly was in beauty school at the time. I |