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Hey grantburger my name is foxy. I am most likely much older than you. i am new on the computer so bare with me. I am a white female mother of 3 and my children are bi-racial. My oldest son will be 20 in May, my middle son will
be 16 in September, and my baby boy will be 14 in August. I have been with the same man for a very long time. You know let me tell you something, I don't care who the person is no matter what the color they are, as long as the two of you (Me and my girlfriend) are happy that is all that counts.
When I first met my husband, I did not look at him for his color, I fell in love with him not for his color, and he feels the same. Sure people look at us, but you know what, we don't care. The only thing that counts is that I love him and he loves me, and out of all that we made three BEAUTIFUL boys,
so don't worry about what people think and say, as long as you and your girlfriend are happy. God bless the both of you. Please e-mail me back.
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Hey grant, my name is Randy, and I live in Sacramento, Ca. The part of Sacramento I live in has a lot of different races of people,
but the majority are Asian. I like this girl, and she is Asian, and we have been spending a lot of time together. A few days ago I was offended
by a comment she made about blacks. She told me that I'm not ghetto, but I should be. I did not respond because I like her and did not want to say
anything to hurt her. People have said a lot of things to hurt me recently, in fact a few days ago, this japanese guy told me my skin is too dark, and
my eyes are not tight enough to drive my car (a 1997 Honda Accord EX). I get asked a lot why do I have so many nice things. The only way i know how to answer is by telling the truth, we all work hard to have nice things.
I get disciminated against because I'm not Asian, but I have a lot of things that they feel black people should not have. Almost all of the Asian guys i know
do not like me or will not hang out with me. My Asian friend Jenn says it is because I drive a better car that they do and because in her opinion, I'm really cute.
Asians in my area have said to me that all Asians are rich, and everybody else is not. Well thanks, talk to ya later.
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Hello, I am a white female, and I am dating an African American man. We have been together now for just 2 months.
We live in Peoria, Illinois. Many people in Peoria have no problems with interracial dating, and on the other hand some do.
I would say it is 50/50 here. My parents do not agree with our relationship, but his parents realize that there is nothing wrong with
interracial dating. They realize that we are all humans.
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Hi there. I saw your website, and thought that I would write and tell you my story. You may call me Maven.
I'm a female, 23, my background is African American, Mexican American, Native American, and French, so basically I'm black, Mexican, Apache, and French.
I have a boyfriend who is 25, and he is white, I don't really know his background. We have been together for 6 weeks, not that long.
This is going to sound funny, but we met on-line. I know that it's wierd, but hey you never know where you will find the one you care for.
I live in San Bernadino, California. My boyfriend lives in Greenville, North Carolina. He is in school right now. I'm very proud of him.
My family is a little funny, my mother is Mexican and Apache, but all she ever dated was black men. She never really liked white people, but she grew up.
My family is all right with me dating a man of another race, I mean they really have no choice, I'm a grown woman. I have only ever dated white men.
People ask me why, and I tel them it has to do with my surroundings. I have always lived in the white neighborhoods.
My family was the only black family on the block, so I never grew up around blacks. So white men are all I have really ever known.
I have always had white friends and boyfriends, my older brother is married to a white woman. My family is comfortable with it.
You know people are people. I don't know how my boyfriend's family feels about it. I do know he does have relatives that don't believe that races
should mix, but he thinks that is just asinine, and I agree. He loves me for me, and he doesn't see color. He treats me right and cares for me.
That is all I ask. I live in California, so I feel that people are accepting of my choices in partners. I have really never had a problem, they never said a word to me about it.
I don't have kids, but I'm a child of an interracial couple, so I can give you my point of view on things. When growing up I had problems. I won't lie,
I mean the black kids could be really mean to me because I wasn't black enough to hang out with them. You know I was lighter than them, so I was different.
I would try to hang around the Mexican kids, and I was too dark to hang around them. I wasn't pure Mexican, so I wasn't worth their time, which was fine
because I didn't want to waste my time with people like that anyway. I'm not saying that it was easy being a bi-racial child, but it's not as hard as people make it sound.
I found that I was accepted by white kids. They treated me like a person and not a color. I'm not saying all white kids treated me well, but most did, more than any Mexican or black kids did.
That was fine with me, I had my friends and they just hapened to be white. This is going to sound racist, but I prefer to date white men. I love long hair on men.
It's a turn on to me. I love white skin too. i love the way my flesh contrasts with my boyfriend's. I really don't know what it is
about white men that I love. I mean I know a nice looking black man or Mexican man when I see one, but I just prefer a white man. A lot of black men
ask me if in my past a black man treated me bad or if my father left me, and that is the reason why I love white men.
I tell them no, I mean my step-father, who is black, abused me for years, and a family member molested me was black.
They say that is the reason why I like white men, that I tell them but wait, when I was 13 a white friend of mine raped me, so if you are saying the reason I don't like black men was because
of that, then I shouldn't like white men either. Then they just kind of shut up about it. I mean it's my choice, and I choose to date white men.
I have dated men of my race. Believe me I love all men, I just prefer white men, and if people don't like it then that is their problem,
and they will get over it. So you have my story, and I hope that it helps you out. Thanks for your time. Maven.
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Hello Grantburger, my name is shell and I am a white 26yr old female. My partner
is a black 31yr old. We have been actually dating for a month....but I have
known him for 4 months. We met over the internet...he is from San Diego
California and I am from Ohio. He moved here a month ago. I have 2
children...7yr old daughter and a 3 yr old daughter. My 3 yr old is bi-racial.
My 7yr old is white. My 7yr old was with a high school relationship...but my 3
yr old was with a man that I was with for a year. Both of their fathers have
never spent any time with them. I have done this whole parenting thing all by
myself since I was 17yrs old, which was hard enough,especially with two children
from different fathers and races. My 7 yr old has never had a problem with her
baby sister being a different color...I try and teach my children not to see
color. Maybe to recognize it, as a beautiful thing and how different everyone is
in there own special way. They also have a cousin who is bi-racial.
I am from a fairly large family, I have 5 sisters and 1 brother. My parents are
divorced and both of them are happily remarried. When I was younger my father
was the biggest racist there was, but his thoughts have changed dramatically. He
says everyone is equal and are all human...I think that stems from his bi-racial
grandchildren. My mother on the other hand had more of a problem with it, and
still does, but like she says " I am not going to lose my daughter and grandkids
because of a life decision she makes for herself". She now excepts that, and
will accept any man I chose to date. But deep down she would rather see me with
a white man. My older brother does no accept it and will never except it. As
long as I am with a black man he will not have anything to do with me. He will
not come to any holidays or family get togethers as long as my boyfriend is
there. He says we were not raised with this "jungle fever bullshit." He does not
blame our kids for being mixed and does not hold that against them.
Now as for his parents and there views...he was really skeptical on telling them
about me and my color. He always said his momma would be worried I wouldn't feed
him well enough..HA HA!! No white girl can cook good enough for her son! But no
for real...they basically told him that what ever makes him happy they would be
fine with. For his father...he doesn't care...maybe do to the fact he doesn't
really talk about it. His mother deep down inside would like to see him with a
women of his own race...because she feels that a white women has a hard time
understanding how hard it is for a black man in America.
The area where we live in is a mixed community...but there will always be
someone who doesn't agree with your relationship no matter where you live. Some
places more than others.
I have many more thoughts and experiences to share with you, much more that I
did not go into with you.
If you are interested in hearing more or have any questions, please email me at
shellshell@sssnet.com
I do hope everything goes well with your web site, good luck!!!
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Hello Grant, My name is Hutch and I think it is a good thing that you have this
sight. I have always wanted a relationship with a white woman but I just can`t
seem to have a relationship. I think its the negativeness a black male get from
the media and society. Good Luck.
Send Responses to Hutch at starblazer@worldnet.att.net
I was reading your responses and thought I would let you know how I feel. I am a 28 year old white female and in about 3 weeks
I will be marrying the man I have been with for the last 7 years. He is a 32 year old black male. We have, like I said, been
together for a long seven years and we have toughed it through. We have two bi-racial boys ages 4 and 8. They are treated fine
by all the kids we live around and the kids they go to school with. Since they are so young, we haven't had much trouble with that yet.
We live in Ohio and people aren't too accepting of the mixed couple attitude yet, but there is so much of it that most people will stare
a little and go about their own business...we mind our own business anyway!! As for parents, mine are accepting of it...my mother, step-father,
father, and step-mother. My grandfather hasn't spoken to me since I was 15, but I understand where he comes from and the way he was raised to think.
I don't hate him for not talking to me and he don't hate me...it's just the way it is. As for his family, they are accepting of me, they just don't
come around a lot. His grandmother is the one that we deal with a lot and she is absoultely the greatest. His mother lives with us and she is great too.
As for anything else, the only advice I can give anyone who is dating another person of another color is to stick by your guns and do what YOU BELIVE IN!!!
If you don't believe in what you are doing and you are only doing it because you think it is "Cool" then you need to really take a look inside yourself
and explore your own self before having any type of relationship. Thanks for the site and if anyone should have any questions or want to talk about similar
issues you can reach me at hboerner@neo.rr.com. Again, thanks.
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Hi, I am a white female, and my boyfriend is black. We have been
together for almost two years now. We met in Seattle where he lives
when my friend was visiting one of his friends. I live near vancouver
canada and he lives in Washington State(yes some long distance
relationships CAN work, if u truly try) My family doesnt care what
race my boyfriend is as long as he treats me well and I am happy and
his family feels the same way. My Aunt had an interracial marriage so
she kind of paved the road for me, it is accepted in my family and
no one really thinks anything of it. Where I live is accepting of it,
we only get the occasional "LOOK" from both black and white people
who obviously have closed minds and live worlds full of hate. I do
not have kids yet, but I think that if a child is brought up properly
and knows where they come from and feels loved , then regardless how
some ignorant peoples children respond to them, they will be happy
and lead happy and productive lives. Our lives are too short to be
living it for someone else and the most important thing is to be
happy with yourself and respect others.
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Hello Grant and thanks for the web page. My name is Mary Thompson and
my hubbie is Bernard. We will be celebrating our 4th anniversary in
Oct. We live in Frederick Maryland but met in a bar in West
Virginia---who says you cant find your soulmate at a nightclub.. I am
31, white female, and my hubby is 32 black male. My mother was not cool
about it at first but learned that its whats on the inside that counts.
His family was much more accepting.Where we live in Maryland,
interracial relationships are very common. But I am from a little town
in Ohio and whenever we go back for a visit we get nasty looks and hear
people mutter under their breaths. But we love each other and our 2
kids (age 2-1/2 and 1 yr) that we dont care and just consider them
ignorant fools. We have learned to look beyond what people think and
just remember that it is love and not the color of our skin that brought
us together. And even though it may be tough at times, I would not
trade it for the world. If you require any further information or just
want to correspond, please contact me at Ohiogal508@yahoo.com. Thanks,
Mary
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Dear Grant, I am very impressed with the work that you have done on this home page. It is impressive for someone who
just read a book and figured out on his own how to make his own web page. I am also very glad that people continue to
send you messages. I truly do hope that you find a way to get pictures of you and your girlfriend. I would love to see them.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 11 & 1/2 months. What about you and your girlfriend. I am black and my
boyfriend is white. We have had our problems just like any other relationship, but we got past them because of the love of
God and our love of each other. Good luck in the future. rayray122@hotmail.com
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Hi Grant! I have enjoyed the messages from everyone. They are so positive.
I am a white female, married to a black male. We have been married 7 years
last Feb. I am 31 and he is 30. We met in a nightclub near an Army post. He
proposed 3 weeks later and we married 3 months after we first met. We met
in Clarksville, TN and we are now stationed in Texas. My parents were
excited about my marriage... and really only concerned that I hadn't known
him for very long. His parents were receptive too. I feel very welcomed in
his family. My family considers him blood. In fact my own mother told me
that if we were to ever divorce... she would still want him to be in her
life! I think the area we live in right now is accepting of our
relationship... largely due to the fact that it is a military town and
there are all kinds of interracial families. We had lived in central
Pennsylvania a couple of years ago and people seemed okay with us. But we
got a few KKK flyers left on our doorstep. So... for all I know, people
were having major problems with us. I tend to be naive and think the whole
world thinks the way I do... that color doesn't matter.
We have a five year old little boy. I work at the daycare he attends. The
kids like him and get along with him. I had one child ask me if my son was
my little boy. When I told him yes, he said "Is his daddy brown?" I said
"As a matter fact, his daddy is brown." The child was like "oh, okay" and
he never questioned it again! There are several interracial children
there... so it is normal to the other kids. I have to say I was a little
unsure about having a baby, I thought long and hard about it. I didn't want
my child to have to face the ugliness that people sometime show. But I
wanted to have the experience of having a child with my husband. The chance
to mold a mind and raise a person from birth. The normal things any woman
would want in life. And now that my son is here and doing well... I am glad
I did. I know that I can't protect him from prejudice, but I also can't
protect him from his first broken heart or anything else like that. So I
have taught him as best as I can and hope that I can handle what comes in
the future. He is so absolutely beautiful, I love seeing my family's
features and my husband's family's features in his face. As a matter of
fact we are trying to have a second baby now, and I can't wait to see what
delight will await us!! I hope this hasn't ran too long... I am passionate
about my man and my boy!! Can't wait to see some pictures on this site!!
Thanks for listening!
Jordene
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The Proposal...
(written 2.21.99)
Today marks one year of being together! =) Did I ever tell you how Joe proposed? Probably not.
Well, he proposed twice...the second time was the "formal" time. We had planned to go ring shopping.
So we went to a mall close to where i live and we looked around and I picked out 4 rings I liked the most.
(It's always been my dream for my engagement ring to be an emerald with diamonds around it.) So we parted
so that he could pick out one of the rings, that way it would still be a surprise which ring he actually chose.
About 15 minutes later, Joe found me and told me that he didn't get one because no one would be in the store
to fit it until Monday (this was on a Saturday, by the way). I was kinda let down, because this was our big
plan for day, but I understood.
We then decided to go to the WB outlet store because that was something we'd wanted to do for awhile.
Now from the highway, it looks like such a big place. It wasn't. It was the size of someone's garage.
This also let me down. After looking around, we left and were on I-95 coming back and after the B'more toll,
Joe took the Balitmore Inner Harbor exit. At this point, I just wanted to go home, but I knew he had wanted
to take me to the cheesecake factory all summer and since I was feeling down, he probably wanted to cheer me up.
He's always doing amazing things for me.
When we got to the Cheesecake Factory, the wait was only an hour and a half (if you've ever been there you know
it can be 3 hrs!). So we put our name in and walked around on the harbor. My feet were killing me, but we were
holding hands and really having a nice romantic time, checking out the shops and sights.
After an hour, we went up to the podium where we gave our name and asked how much longer the wait would be.
They told us to step behind the podium, next to this wall of mirrors. That's all they told us. We didn't know
if we were going to be sacrificed to the restaurant gods or what. But we did it obediantly and were happy we did!
Within two minutes, we were seated outside on the patio with a very romantic view of the harbor.
By this time I was feeling much better. I had gotten off of my feet and was looking into the most beautiful blue eyes,
to this day, I have ever seen. I was still a little sad because Joe was leaving MD the next day, to go back to DE to
begin his sophomore year. After we had finish our dinner, we were deciding whether or not we wanted cheesecake.
I turned around to look for our waitress. When I turned back there was a fuzzy little black box sitting on the table
in front of me. My heart stopped. Joe got down on one knee and proposed, right there, for the world to see. I was shaking,
and I think he was too but I managed a "yes". After my response to that life changing question, everyone around us clapped
and cheered. *sighs* That was, by far, one of the BEST nights of my life...
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Grant,
Looked at your site and I like the concept. I could probably write a book with all I have been through. I am Liz, I am white,
and I was married to an African American male for over 25 years. My family~~not favorable. His family~~never felt out of place.
We live in Kansas City, Kansas. Why? The city has a great melting pot of races and we felt comfortable with raising our family here.
We met in 1970 at a club we both frequented in the Kansas City area. We had two beautiful children, they are both grown.
I suffered more than anyone thru all those years, but I loved him like no other and I was going to overcome the odds to show the
world that it was indeed possible to have that type of relationship. My family grew to accept my husband and my children are the
most well mannered and well spoken you could ever find. But, like I said before, with all the strife that "I" was forced to endure,
I could write a book on the subject. And, after all those long and hard years, it all ended. I still don't know why. So here I am at age 51,
single again, and still in love with the darker persuasion in men. If I don't stop now, I'll end up writing that book right here.
If you want to know anymore, please write to me. Or, if anyone else reads this and wants to write me, feel free, I'd love to talk to
anyone, about anything.
* Your gender and race Black Female
* Your partners gender and race White Male
* How long you have been together 8 months
* Where you met At a restaurant
* What city and state you live in New
York, NY
* How your parents and family feel about it They don't know
yet. But this is not my first IR. They
would accept it but will wish that he was Black.
* How your partner's parents and family feel about it
Yeah, right. No clue. Out of state.
* Do you feel that where you live is accepting about your
relationship Yes.
* Do you have any kids and if so how do other kids respond to them
N/A
* Please feel free to add anything else you feel is pertinent
Congrats on your new site. You can
contact me at
LawGirl_JD@Yahoo.com
My name is Kim.
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My wife and I think this web site is and excellent idea. My name is Morgan (BM/31)
and my wife's name is Stacey (WF/21). We have been married for close to 2 years
and I believe it is the best thing that has happened to both of us. We have a beautiful
son(Age 1), Morgan the III and own our own business together. Despite our difference
in age and background we seem to make the perfect couple. Before I met my wife I dated
black women exclusily until by chance I met my wife. I am very glad I was open minded
enough to give our relationship a real chance. I wish more people were as open minded,
they might find true love as we did. We wish you good luck in your search. Feel free to
E-Mail us at any time. We are always open to meet new people.
Send responses to Morgan and Stacey at MHinesII@aol.com
Hi grant, liked your site. Here's my story ...
My name's Carolyn, I'm a 30 year old BF currently in a very loving and
happy 2 1/2 year partnership with a WM of the same age, whom I met
through my addiction to classifieds ads in London [where we both live
and work].
We've been lucky, in the sense that both our parents [my dad's only just
starting to come round the idea that my partner hasn't just landed from
Mars], siblings and friends have accepted our relationship. Like many
others, there have been problems, both from within and outside the
relationship.
I had difficulty accepting that this WM was the man I could be spending
the rest of my life with - I didn't think that I was strong enough to
accept other people's views and comments about our relationship [my own
included].
I have a young black son to raise and I didn't want him confused about
his cultural identity as a future black man, complete with positive
black-on-black role models. But, you can't choose who you fall in love
with right! Together, I know that we will educate my son and our own
children [when they come] about both cultures and look to ourselves and
our families as positive role models for the future.
Take care,
Caro-lee
Also, I don't know if anyone else will agree, but I can sometimes
recognise people/men who seem more likely to date interracially. I've
found that I'm starting to attract more interest from white males than
before, but maybe that's due to the fact that I'm happy and at peace
with myself and its showing! Who knows.
Send responses to Carolyn at carolyn.sargeant@virgin.net
I would love to communicate with you...I just turned 50 and am in my first serious relationship with a black man. This forum
is great, but sometimes I feel like an old lady here!!! Our issues are similar but I think age gives us a definite advantage
in dealing with parents ( if we still have them,) and society in general. At least I feel as though I know who I am, what I
want etc.....at this point in my life I had better, right???
So, please get in touch. I know all about how "things" were in the seventies (my sister married a black man in 1979),
maybe we can help each other through this maze of life at the turn of the century!!!
Donna Lou
I'M A BLACK FEMALE AGE 22 AND MARRIED NO KIDS TO A LOVEING WHITE MAN AGE 25 WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 8 YEARS MARRIED FOR 2 YEARS.
WHAT I HAVE TO SAY TO EVERYONE WHO'S IN A INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIP OR THINKING ABOUT GETTING INTO 1. IT'S SOMETHING 2 PEOPLE HAVE
TO WANT. YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG AND KNOW THAT YOUR IN IT FOR LOVE, IF NOT IT WON'T WORK OUT. THERE'S TOO MANY PEOPLE TO TELL YOU STAY
WITH YOUR OWN RACE ,IT COULD NEVER BE TRUE LOVE BUT I'M HERE TELLING YOU IT CAN BE REAL AND IT COULD LAST IF YOU WORK TOGETHER IT WORKED
FOR ME..... I WISH EVERYONE THE BEST, AND ALWAYS PUT HAPPIENESS FRIST! I REALLY ENJOYEDYOUR SITE. ANYONE IS WELCOME TO E-MAIL ME AT NEKIA76@YAHOO.COM
Send responses to Nekia at nekia76@yahoo.com
hey, Love this web page because i' white and my boyfriend is black we've been
togather for 4 months and happy as ever. We have problems but not the interracial
problems. More on the age thing and different city but other than that its ok
relationship. I went in here because my friend has prblems with her family and
the interracial thing i sent to her so see can see for her self and maybe she can
get help. thanks lot though. luv lots lindsay
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Hey!! Very cool idea!! I have an interracial dating club, if you would like to join,
go to http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/interracialdatingpenpals
We have tons of fun there, and you don't need to be single to join. I have a boyfriend,
and I am the founder!! But you get to meet a lot of people who share your ideas on interracial
dating. So please, come by and join!! ~*~Miss Saralee~*~
Send responses to Miss Saralee at angelic_n_sweet@yahoo.com
I thank God for sites like yours. They really give me encouragement. I am 2 months into an
Internet romance with a biracial man whom I adore. We are both devout Christians. My parents claim to be,
but I am having trouble with them right now. Because my boyfriend has darker skin,
they see him as all African American. I get so frustrated with them because they
can only see skin deep. Anyway, I'm determined that if he makes me happy (which he does)
I'm going to stand by him no matter what the costs. Visiting websites like yours gives
me great encouragement. If you have any comments or suggestions, I'd love to hear them. Thanks again.
Thanks to those who have responded, and I hope to hear from more people.
Send responses to Jennifer at jmepperl@vt.edu
Hi Grantburger!
I think your site is really great! I wanted to share my story with you as
well. My name is Rosalyn. I'm 27, black and married to a wonderful 23 yr.old
white man. We've been together for about 6 years and will be celebrating our
second year of marriage in September. We met online, however we lived just a
few minutes from each other. I walked up to his door and presented him with
flowers, he sang me a love song and we've been together ever since. We live in
Arlington, Texas which is between Dallas and Ft. Worth. His family was a bit
uneasy about our courtship. He's from a very small town where all the black
people lived "on the other side". They hadn't had any bad experiences with
blacks, so I guess they figured that we couldn't all be bad. I had dated white
men all through high school and most of college so I guess by the time I met
Travis my parents were pretty much numb to it. I do remember telling my mother
that I was probably going to marry a white man, so she'd better start
preparing herself now:) Anyway, we live in a racially divided city but every
now and then, we'll run across someone who just doesn't understand. My hubby's
biggest pet peeve? When we go to the grocery store and I put items on the belt
and he puts items on the belt, the cashier will stop at my items and give me a
total. (Like we aren't together) Normally I look at them strangely and say
"Must my husband pay for his items separtely?" Or, when they say..."Is this
yours too?" I normally respond with "No, I always pay for strangers'
groceries." We've tried to laugh it off, but it just gets to you sometimes,
you know? We don't have any kids yet, but are definatley planning on some. And
the next person that asks me "why" will get a big boot up their butt! Keep up
the good work on the site!
Rosalyn
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Came about your site while looking for something else. I am a white woman in a long term relationship with a man of African descent. We've been together for 15 years, eight of those years we have been married.
I am always amazed by the preoccupation some folks (particularly Americans) have with interracial relationships. Being Canadian, we do have a different experience of history, although the lack of acceptance is there, too...just harder to see...
Anyway. Keep up the good work.
Beth
Hi, I'm a high school junior, and I am bi-racial. My parents raised me to
date whoever i feel is good enough for my standards and will make me happy.
As of now I am not dating anyone, but have dated black,bi-racial, white,
asian, and indian guys and have had good relationships with all of them. It's
good to know that there are people who can see past skin color and see whats
important.
Sincerely,
Rose Okoye
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Dear Grant:
Thanks so much for having a site where there is information and stories of
other interracial couples. I have been in several interracial relationships.
And except for the color there is no difference in dating. Yes, we sometimes
see the stares and hear the whispers but, they don't bother either of us.
My relationship is a little different from yours. I met my guy on the
Internet. I was at work and on instant messenger. I was in a room as
always, passing time at work...I have a job where my employer doesn't mind
that I look on the Internet or talk during time that I'm not busy. I'm a
receptionist so there are times when I have nothing to do. One day I was in
the room and I noticed a name that just came in the room. There was really
nothing special about the name but it caught my eye. I look at the profile
and then again nothing exciting. I had the overwheming want, need, urge I'm
not sure what it was to talk to this person. I started talking and while
answering the phone my responses were slow. After a while he Instant
messaged me and we started talking. We have talk on line and on the phone
everyday since. I've gone to New York to meet him in person. I live now in
Wisconsin. I'm moving in the spring to West Virginia. Then I won't be as far
away. We care about each other very much. Like I said just like any other
kind of relationship. We don't get to see each other very often...only about
once a month but the time we do spend is very special to us both. We talk
everyday on the phone or send email to keep in touch. I wouldn't change a
thing at this time. Because we won't just jump into something. We will get
to know each other probably better than most couples that see each other all
the time. We do have some differences that we ourselves have noticed.
Doesn't really have much to do with the fact that he is black and I'm white
but more of the way we were brought up. Someday I would like to spend my
life with him but we have a lot of learning about each other. For me I'm
very turned on with the fact that we are of different color. It is very
beautiful when we are together. I've heard that most interracial couples
feel the same way. I tell him I like his permanent Tan. Which I have none.
It's the person that I love. He is wonderful I wouldn't change a thing about
him. He and I are so much a like it times it's scary. We have the same
ideas and want the same things from a relationship. We have honestly and
respect, which is what a good relationship is all about. We have trust and
understanding.
Once again I thank you for having this site. I've looked a long time and
couldn't find much. I thought about starting my own but I don't really at
this time have the know how.
Thanks again,
Sincerely Mary
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Like always, thanks to those who took the time out to send their responses to make this site a success!
Hey,
wussup i'm in a interracial relationship i've be with this guy for 4 months and i love him my parents know
and my dad says he doesn't mind but my says stay with your own race. Well he's mom i guess doesn't really
mind i know she doesn't like it she sayed i sounded very sweet but it up to him on who he want to go with.
I know he sister doesn't not like it at all but he says he doesn't care what she thinks as long as where
togather. We both the in Southeast Texas but live in different towns. He's a guy i can live with when i get
old but my dad says he doesn't like the age differents. See i'm 15 and he's 21. I know thats bad but see my dad
can't say nothing because when my mom and him first met my mom was 15 and my dad was 27 soooooooo thats a big
differences.I have one friend well i can't say she's a friends but n-e ways she'll and say your white and he's
black that don't mix u don't need to be going with a ni**er. One time i got so mad at for calling him that i
beat the living hell out of her and she never did it around me again.And after what happen in japer,tx people
around where aren' the same but I don't care what people think and either does he thanx for makeing the web page!!!!!!!!!!!!
love lots
lindsay e-mail
ShortyWB_2002@yahoo.com or
taylor_lindsay@hotmail.com
Thanks for writing back....Yes the world would be a better place..
To make a long story short...My husband and me met in Oct of 1995 we hit it
of automaticly...I was going threw a divorce at the time..and it was
nasty..He was there for me and helped me out alot..after the divorce we
started dating regularly..Of course we had our problems..who doesn't...we
lived together for two yrs. before he passed.in 1998 he was diganosis with
cancer..had surgery they could not get it...later he found out he had
more...he had lymphatic lukemia.....well let me tell u It was not a easy time
for me....taking care of my children and his two at times plus working full
time.... any way we decided to get married in July of 1998 just because he
had cancer that didn't mean I didn't love him any less....we never got to
consumate the marrage because he had a catheter in from the time of his
surgery...but that was ok....I could deal with it....my love for him was
strong...This whole experiance brought me close to God....well with treatment
and all going in and out of remission...he was going to Clevland Clinc for a
bone marrow transplant..he got admitted because he had blood coming from his
catheter... This terrible I am sitting here crying as I am writing... they
admitted him to the hospital...went the next day to visit he was not there
they took him for emergency surgery because his kidneys were getting ready to
shut down...well that was on Saturday...I got a call from him on Sunday he
told me that the doctors said there was nothing they could do...He wanted to
come home to die...I said that was his decision...That was so hard for me to
take I cryed all night...he came home Monday night via ambulance around 8:00
pm he was put on a morphine pump I had to sleep with my arms around him cause
he keep trying to get up in the middle of the night...well the next day he
got worse....his breathing got real fast all day..he didn't eat much...by now
it was night time....well they held prayer meetings on that day so I knew the
paster was near ....all of a sudden his breathing went from real fast to
almost nothing...I called my son and his son and told them to run down to the
church and get the paster....in the mean time I was on my knees praying I
look up and him , his eyes were closes the whole day.. all of a sudden they
opened he looked up at the ceiling like he was talking to God then moved his
mouth like he was talking..then looked at me as to let me know he was
ok.....closed his eyes and never opened them again...the paster came I think
he was already gone...but any way my love for that man never died...it still
lives on ...and I think that that is true Interracial Relationship...I wasn't
even married to him when he got sick and stayed with him married him and
burried him....Sorry I am crying and that this is so long If u like later I
can send u a pic of us...
well any way there it is....Take Care and God Bless....Pooh`
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Hi. I go to school where there only 4 black students out of 3,000 and I
am white. I really like a guy that is black that goes to a different
school where there are lots of blacks. We aren't going out yet. I don't
care that he is black and most of my friends are cool with it but my
parents don't like it. They have never met Joey but still they don't
like him just because he is black. He has no problem with us dating
because it is really common at his school but not at my. I am not sure
what to do about it. I want people to not judge my guy for his skin
color but for who he is but I can't get them to look past it. Any ideas?
Your help would be much help to me. Thanks.
Katie Taylor
queenkat5@yahoo.com
My Father is very racist, and does not like the fact that I am in a
relationship with an African American man. He has made his feelings very
clear to me ever since I was little, but I still fell in love. My Father
live 1500 miles away from me, I am not sure how to tell him that we are going
to get married. Do you have any suggestions?
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Hi Grant
My name is Kathy and I just want to say that I saw your interracial website
for the first time yesterday. And I really like it, and you have helped me
alot with my fear of getting into an interracial relationship with a white
guy, I'm black. I have a passion for white males and not because they are
white because I seem to get along better with them. My past relationship with
black guys were just bad. I don't want to sound racist but black guys in the
past have not done nothing for me. I always had to be the one to satisfy them
and make them look good. I couldn't take that anymore. So ever since I moved
to a new neighborhood with nothing but white people and mexican people, I tend
to appreciate them more and they appreciate me, too. Some white guys that have
never came across a black girl before just love talking to me because of my
great sense of humor and everything else. So far I haven't gotten any tongue
lash or discriminatory comments from people because in my neighborhood, nobody
seems to care, but I still take caution 'cuz you never know what people might
be thinking. I want to pursue an interracial relationship but I don't know
what white guy is willing to be with a black girl. I only know one who I am
currently chatting with over the internet and we have gotten to know each
other more and more. But I don't know whether he wants to pursue a
relationship with me, you know. Yeah, and another thing, do you think that
long distance relationship is a good thing? I would love to hear from you.
Thanks.
Kathy Ikojo
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dear grant i was so happy to see that someone out there is color and
culturally blind. as long as a man and woman love each other it doesnt
matter we all need blood to run through our veins and oxygen to breathe
and the last time i looked blood and oxygen didn't have a superior
preferance. i am a single christian black female with two beautiful
bi-racial children. thier father and i broke up because things didn't
work out not the color of our skin, a couple is a couple and as far as i
am conerned we are all human, and as long as your a human we are all
going to have issues in the area of RELATIONSHIPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i love males of the caucasion persuasion especially with a european
accent. i enjoy your site and i hope you find your beautiful, loving,
black, female some day. dont give up! i know some day i will find my
jesus beleiving white male!!! my e-mail add is uma_42@hotmail.com
thanks for a great site and for allowing me to e-mail you adilma
Grant,
My name is Megan. I am a white woman who is engaged to a black man. I
am 21 and he is 24. We have been dating each other for 2 years and are
very happy. My family is not happy about us being together, in fact,
they don't even really acknowledge it; his however his family is very
supportive of us. We continue to work at making our relationship
stonger b/c we know that we will have obstacles in our relationship that
other couples in same race relationships don't have. We have talked
realistically about breaking up b/c of those obstacles, but have ALWAYS
come to the conclusion that we love each other too much to let others
decide our future. As of right now, we're doing great. Sorry to hear
about your breakup...if it's meant to be, it will.
Megan
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Hi
I was just reading your story on the Interracial Relationships website.
So many things that you mentioned, touched on the way that I am feeling. I
have found that as my confidence grows, so does my attractiveness towards
white males.
Maybe , I just never noticed the looks or the smiles before.
Well I just met this guy snowboarding last week, he stayed with me the whole
day, just talking and enjoying the day. By the way I am an African-American
Female.
I invited him to lunch this week, but he hasn't made any moves to let me
know if he is interested in me as a love interest. Was he just being nice, or
could this attraction I have for him grow into some thing else?
Any insight would be appreciated.
Thanks
JET
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Grant, congrats on your excellent site! I am a 36 year old black woman
who is head-over-heals in love with a white man who is 19 years older
than me. He is an attorney and I'm a nurse. We met in the court
room--I was there to give support to a friend, and then I saw my future
love. He chased me for 8 years and I'm so glad he was persistent. I
was even more thankful that I stopped running from him. This is my
first interracial relationship--and hopefully my last.
When we go out for dinner, or to the riverboat casinos, I notice the
nasty looks we get from people who don't understand that love knows no
color. To be honest, there was a time when I would roll my eyes and
turn my nose up whenever I saw a black man and a white woman together.
I no longer do that, because this wonderful man has taught me the true
meaning of love.
I can't imagine being with anyone else, and I really don't want to. My
family is understanding, and since he prefers Black women, his family
knows that he's "not afraid of he dark". (lol)
Just when I was at the point of giving up on men, and becomming a
hermit(-ess) this kind, caring, man comes into my life and shows me that
there is always room to love again. My love for is great and
all-encompassing. I'm so greatful that he's in my life. Thanks for
hearing me out.!
Dear Grant,
I comend your openness. I am a black female and a junior in high school.
For a long time I have had more of a predilecton to dating whites, but it's a very
weird thing to see a white male and a black female, though it is socially accepted for
a black male and white female. I had a friend whom I enjoyed sharing a good joke and the
occasional flirt, when certain people were not around. Then as soon as he got a
girlfriend he basically pretended not to know me. As you can see we don't speak to
each other anylonger, for mutual reasons.
Hi! My name is Kim and I am a seventeen year old white female. I have
been dating my boyfriend Rian for ten months now. He is a twenty year
old black male. I kept the relationship from my parents because they are
very srongly against interracial relationships. In the beginning I
thought that Rian and I would just be a summer fling. But when the
summer was over and he went off to college I felt so lost without him.
Well I am deeply in love with him and he feels the same way about me.
Recently my parents found out about Rian and were outraged. My dad said
that he will not support me in any way if I continue to see Rian. I am
very hurt by this and frustrated. Rian is truly my first love and I am
so happy with him. Rian is big on family and it hurts him that my mom
and dad don't want anything to do with him. His family adores me and
treats me as their daughter. I don't know what to do... What makes it
even worse is my dad is a very stubborn man and he is set in his ways. I
don't think anything could change him. Any advice would be greatly
appreciated. Thanks
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dear grant,
i hope your relationship is still going well. My name is becky and i have
been married to an african american man for 10 years and we are still very
much in love. I had never dated another race before. not that i cared what
a man's race was, i was never in that situation before. All i knew is he was
the most caring person i had ever met and extremely handsome. the first time
he hugged me i knew he was the man i was going to marry. He is one in a
million. I have never had any man treat me as well as my husband has. Love
should never have a color. it is a feeling. I had no trouble with my
family, but his at first was very against it. ten years later we still dont
have a close relationship (his mother and i ) but it is ok. I have three
children from a previous relationship and they absolutely adore my husband to
them he is their dad. I hope people continue to follow their hearts no
matter what obsticles they have to overcome because it is well worth it. My
husband is truly my best friend.
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I date interracially. I have two
interracial children. Things did not work out with their father, my husband,
but I would like another long term committed relationship.
It seems like there aren't any good interracial single sites out in which
people can met each other.
I would like to do something about that. Maybe you can help.
Kimberly
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I think your website is neat and gives an interresting perspective on
interracial dating. I am an African-American female (21 yrs. old) who is dating
a white male (22 yrs. old). We have been dating non stop for the last 4 1/2
years. He is the most wonderful man in the world. I have never been into
white boys. We met through a friend and we out once on a whim and have been
together ever since. What I find most interresting about our relationship is
that we have been able to maintain it considering all the challenges that we
faced from ourselves and outside forces. We started dating very young (while
we were in high school) which was fine then but after I graduated I became
more and more concerned with my own racial identity. I was and still am very
socially and politically active in issues and groups concerning
African-Americans. It seems that my lifestlye and surroundings have become so
Afrocentric it hard to belive that I have this white boyfriend. I love him and
don't plan on breaking up with him. However, at times I am very aprehensive
about bringing him into my circle of pro-Africans friends. However, most know
that he is white and don't care. I think that it is my own apprehension that
holds me back. I understand that he cannot have the same motivations and
drives that I do because he doesn't know what it is like to grow up and be
black in America. I don't fault him for this either. He is still the most
down for the cause man that I know. I don't think I have a real question here
but more of my questioning of developing my own racial identity. I think you're
website is a good source of support for interracial couples. It can be hard
sometimes but if you truly love the person you can make it work. You can
respond or ask any questions if you want.
Tiffany
email me at: luckystarr@mail.com
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