What is a clear conscience?

Romans 14:13-23

 

            I couldn’t get away from the thought this week that today’s passage is highlighting the “conscience.”  I don’t know if I have ever heard a message dealing with the conscience.  Have you?  Paul states in Acts 23:1, in speaking to a Jewish council, "Men and brethren, I have lived in all good conscience before God until this day.”  Could you do that today – stand before a judge and say, “I have lived in all good conscience before God until this day?  Do you live in “all good conscience?”  How does a person live in “all good conscience before God?”  This passage helps us understand what made Paul’s conscience clear.

 

I.  He lived for Christ’s APPROVAL.  13 Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother's way. 14 I know and am convinced by the Lord Jesus that there is nothing unclean of itself; but to him who considers anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean.

            This phrase, “I know and am convinced by the Lord Jesus . . .” is a key phrase. Before Paul puts anything in his mouth, he wants the Lord’s approval.  Do you see the rather strong way he says it?  “I know and am convinced.”  He wanted to make sure that what he ate was OK with God.  He went before the Lord with his dinner menu, he searched the Scriptures to find out what they said, he discussed the issue with others and listened to their input.  He didn’t want to do anything until he was convinced that what he was doing was approved by his Master, Jesus.

            That’s why he can say, “I have come to the conclusion, having been persuaded by the Lord, that no food is in itself ‘unclean,’ and will ruin my relationship with God.”  “I can eat meat offered to idols and it doesn’t take me away from God.”   “I can eat chocolate covered locusts, and spinach covered cherries.” 

            That’s the way Paul lived.  He could have chosen his food on the basis of his opinion, or feelings, or prejudices.  But he wanted Christ’s approval.  How often do we examine what we do in light of the Word of God, in light of what we know that God wants us to do?  “Lord will you be satisfied with me eating this extra piece of pie?  It is my fourth piece.”  Everyone around is saying, “go ahead, do it;” or “everyone else is eating their fourth piece.

            And this question expands to much more: “Lord would you be satisfied with this TV program I am watching?”  “With this music I am listening to?”  “With this picture I am thinking of?”  Paul consulted the Lord even over his diet.

            What is a “clear conscience?”  Living with the Lord’s approval.  This means examining your actions and desires – not those of your neighbor.  Someone has said, “an unexamined life is not worth living.”  A clear conscience comes after the examination, after checking to see if what you are doing is really what God wants you to do. 

            Notice the command that led Paul to examine his diet before the Lord.  We see it in verse 13.  In essence, Paul says, “stop judging others, instead use your judging skills on your own actions.”  You don’t have to judge others because God is going to judge them (verse 12).  He will deal with their problems.  Instead get serious about judging yourself because, God is going to judge YOU!  Judge yourself before He does.  Don’t let less important things distract you from the most important thing – evaluating your own life before God.

            Paul’s conclusion is that no food is “unclean.”  The word “unclean” refers to something that would interrupt or ruin his relationship with God.  It’s something that would displease God, something to which He has said “no.”  Paul is not talking about anything in the world there.  He is not saying, “nothing is good or ill, but thinking makes it so.”  There are things that are clearly unclean – lying, immorality, stealing, coveting – whether you think they are unclean or not, they will interrupt and ruin your relationship with God.  But in this passage Paul is talking about the controversy over food.  Some people thought they could eat any food, but others thought that meat which had been offered to idols had poison in it, and that if they ate it, it would ruin their relationship with God.  They viewed such meat as “unclean” and couldn’t eat it without fear that God would judge them for their choice.

            Paul had run the tests, he had evaluated the meat and the way he cooked it in light of God’s will.  And so he ate in total confidence.

 

II.  He lived to protect others (13-16)  13 Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother's way. 14 I know and am convinced by the Lord Jesus that there is nothing unclean of itself; but to him who considers anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean. 15 Yet if your brother is grieved because of your food, you are no longer walking in love. Do not destroy with your food the one for whom Christ died. 16 Therefore do not let your good be spoken of as evil;

            20 Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All things indeed are pure, but it is evil for the man who eats with offense. 21 It is good neither to eat meat nor drink wine nor do anything by which your brother stumbles or is offended or is made weak.

 

            There is more to living your life than what you are sure is right.  Even if you are absolutely convinced by Jesus Christ Himself that what you are doing is right, that doesn’t mean you should do it.  Whether it is right for you, whether you have liberty to do it is not the ultimate issue.  There is a more important question – are you hurting the kids?  Suppose I like to ride a sled down an ice covered road at breakneck speed.  It petrifies my kids, but I make them go with me; they scream and I laugh all the way down.  I figure they need to grow up and experience a real scare. 

            Jesus made four statements after He had set a little child in the middle of the disciples: (1) "Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. (2) "Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. (3) "Whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me. (4) " But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea” (Matt. 18:3-6) (italics added).

            In summary, Jesus says, “You ruin a little child who believes on me and your life is not worth much.”  The protection of a young believer is Jesus Christ’s priority.  Which means that what the young believer thinks, what he concludes is very important.  And if  he can’t eat this meat offered to idols because he truly believes that it has poison in it that’s important!  And you don’t help him by saying, “oh, get over it, grow up, get a life, quit being so childish.”  Why not?  Because he may not be able to get over it – at least not yet.  It’s a conviction inside, something that is a part of him, something that controls his emotions.

            Suppose I am careening down an ice covered road at breakneck speed holding my 6 year old petrified daughter who is in tears, screaming, and I say, “oh, get over it, grow up, enjoy the ride, quit being so childish.”  What happens?  I can do serious damage to her.  And I am doing nothing more than exercising my freedom!  Is there anything wrong with sledding at high speed?  Not that I know of.  Why go down a hill anyway?  Just to go slow?

            Every one of us knows how important it is to protect our children.  We have a sacred responsibility to encourage them to grow up in a healthy way.  We go out of our way to do this in many areas, like their physical well-being. 

            I met an amazing example of child-protection a couple of days ago – the pastor of Hagerstown Bible Church and his wife.  Their son could not eat anything that contained dairy products.  In fact his condition was so sensitive that he had to have a stomach tube and a special formula designed in Europe.  He lived this way for years, in and out of hospitals, sometimes for weeks.  His mother had to stay with him all the time because the hospital staff usually did not understand how critical his diet was.  At the same time there were six other children in the family to care for.  In the last six months his constitution is improving so that his body will accept some dairy products.  He is now 17 years old.  Can you imagine the strain for the past 17 years?  We applaud those kinds of parents.  In a similar way, God wants us to be these kinds of parents to younger believers.  It is our sacred responsibility to encourage them to grow up in a healthy way.

            They may disagree with us on things like clothes, food, music, Bible translations, and the days we ought to celebrate in the church year.  That’s alright.  We first of all need to make sure, as we observed last week, that they understand that we welcome them completely into our lives and include them in our circle of friends.

            Then we want to understand them.  Some Christians only eat fish on Friday because they believe that other kinds of meat affect their relationship with God.  Some Christians believe that wine and alcohol affect their relationship with God.  Some believe that certain styles of music are not from God and are unclean. 

            What do we do in those cases?  Are their conclusions of any importance?  Should we just ignore them and call them childish?  Not if it is going to affect their walk with God.  There are people who are convinced that Halloween is wrong, that they should have nothing to do with it.  Should I joke about that and blatantly practice my Halloween habits?  Not if it is going to hurt their walk with God.  Paul says, 15 Yet if your brother is grieved because of your food, you are no longer walking in love. Do not destroy with your food the one for whom Christ died.

            Paul says over in I Corinthians 8:13, “Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, I will never again eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble.”  I am free in Christ to eat anything.  But I am also free in Christ not to eat what might hurt a younger brother or sister in Christ.

            I can ride my sled down a steep hill as fast as I want, but if I have a child with me I need to think about the event in a different way.  I am not free to hurt my child in my search for personal excitement.

            Have you ever thought about how your actions are affecting others?  What does it say to young believers when you say, “I am only a Sunday morning church person; I don’t come any other time?”  “Sitting in a chair and acting bored is for me the Christian life in all its glory?”  “Criticizing others is the way we Christians make progress in Christ?”  “Ignoring young believers and new people is what Christ taught us to do?”  Is there anything wrong with Sunday morning church only?  No.  Is there anything wrong with sitting in a chair and acting bored?  No.  You may be excited inside.  Is there anything wrong with criticizing others?  Probably, especially in light of vs 13.  Is there anything wrong with ignoring young believers? 

            Do you see where I am going?  We have a sacred responsibility to the young, to do all we can do to protect them.  This means interrupting our liberties to keep from causing them to stumble.  It means that we are interested in their health as much or more than our fun, or our liberty. 

            And what happens when I don’t care?  When we don’t care?  When we tell young believers to “get over it and grow up on their own?”  It’s the word “stumble.”  It’s the word “millstone around neck.”  It’s the word “drowned in the sea.”  God forbid that our lives as well as their lives should be wasted in that way. 

 

III.  He lived to make others STRONG (17-19).  17 for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 For he who serves Christ in these things is acceptable to God and approved by men. 19 Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another.

            It’s not only protecting other believers; it is doing what I can to strengthen them.  The Kingdom of God is not in eating or drinking.  Life is not found as much in rocketing down an ice covered road as much as in leading my children to peace, and joy, and righteousness.

            Christianity is a supernatural life lived in the power of the Holy Spirit.  You have to eat and drink, but they are not the primary elements of real life.  The primary elements are relational, righteousness, peace, and joy.  God wants His people to live in righteousness, peace, and joy.  Are you experiencing Righteousness, Peace and Joy today?  Is your neighbor?  You say, “how am I supposed to know?”  “Who cares about my neighbor?” 

            So I am careening down an ice covered road hanging on to my screaming, petrified child.  I may think that I am experiencing peace and joy, and life and thrill all rolled into one.  And God says, “what about your child?”  And I say, “how am I supposed to know?”  “Who cares about my child?”  The condition of my child is an integral part of real life.

            Our mission statement says, “BBC is a family of believers who love and worship God, love and care for His family, and love and share Him with the world.”  We “love and care for His family.”  How?  By helping them experience righteousness, peace and joy.  Once you experience that genuine righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, you want to share it; you want others to experience it.  Once you experience the joy and thrill of careening down an ice covered hill on a sled, you want your children to experience the same joy and thrill.  And you realize that for them to have a similar joy and thrill in the snow at their age may require a totally different activity.  You may not help them enjoy the snow at all by forcing them to experience it your way.

 

            What do we do?  Suppose your daughter brings home a boyfriend who is, let’s say, “outside your expectations.”  Somehow, for some reason, he doesn’t fit your specifications.  Important question: HOW do you, the father or the mother, respond?

            Two basic responses: 1.  I will focus on myself and what I want and what I see as right and best and I will impose my will on the situation.  Question: “Is my response going to cause them to stumble?”  What does stumble mean here?  Is it going to push them into sin?  Is it going to encourage them to disconnect with us and go their own ways apart from us?  Is it going to make it more difficult for them to think through the issues seriously?  Is my response going to frustrate them in ways that make their lives more difficult?

            2.  I realize that my sacred duty is to my daughter and her new found friend – at the expense of my agenda and what I may want to do.  The question is, “what can I do to help them grow?”  “What can I do to strengthen them in such a way that they can see more clearly what the real issues are here?”  They are old enough so that they are going to have to start taking responsibility for their decisions, and the help they need from you is wisdom as to how to do that.

            The statement in verse 18 is, For he who serves Christ in these things is acceptable to God and approved by men.  You serve Christ in these things by asking yourself, “what can I do to help others grow in righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit?” 

 

IV.  He lived to help others TRUST GOD (22-23).  22 Do you have faith? Have it to yourself before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves. 23 But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because he does not eat from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin.

            The goal is to help one another live by faith – not only protecting them, and strengthening them, but helping them stand on their own two feet of faith.  Faith means I am trusting God for this activity; I am obeying God. 

            I can remember Charlie Hanshew talking to a student early in our quartet travels, and saying, “the important thing is to do what God wants you to do.”  My reaction was, “you should say that the important thing is to come to the Washington Bible College.”  After all that’s why we are out.  We are being paid big bucks to recruit students.  But a far more important thing is to help them face the issue by faith – what does God want?  Are we going to help them design their future life in terms of what God wants?

 

            Paul wanted to make sure that every decision had the approval of God.  “Lord will you be satisfied with me eating this extra piece of pie?  It is my fourth piece.”  Everyone around is saying, “go ahead, do it;” or everyone else is eating their 4th piece.

            Faith introduces us to a one-to-one relationship with God.  That relationship lifts us above the influence of the crowd and the TV and the world around us so that we respond as David did with “shall I go up?” and get our directions from the Lord Himself, in a minute-by-minute relationship with Him.

            The more you refuse the things that “convict you in your conscience” the more you live in fellowship with Him.  The more you live in that assurance that this is what God wants me to do right now, the more you live in that “righteousness, and peace and joy of the Holy Spirit.”  On the other hand, when you live with your conscience saying, “are you sure?” you will live in disappointment and discouragement.  Because that kind of life condemns you and is the essence of sin – doing what you want to do (23).  We ought to be able to say with Paul in I Cor 10, “whether therefore you eat, or drink, or whatsoever you do, do all to the glory of God” (10:31).

            Sin is not just eating the wrong kind of food.  Sin is living without faith – whether you eat all the right kind of food or not.  If you do something because someone else did it, if you do it because someone else told you to do it, if you do it to impress others that you can do it, are you doing it in faith? 

            The key to the Christian life is, “will I walk with God?”  “Will I trust His directions and obey them?”  And in process of walking with God is the question, “will I walk with others, by living to edify them and build them up?”  Will I take that as a sacred trust?

            So what are you eating for lunch?  Do what God wants you to do.  And ask God, “are any young believers getting hurt by my actions?”  “What am I doing to strengthen them in righteousness, peace, and joy?”

 

10/02/05, BBC am

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