Grief work is the emotional reorganization you must attend to before life can return to normal.  Grief work is hard work.  That is why you are so often tired.

Everyone who lives a full life must, at some time or another, live with an empty chair.  Whether the chair you live with belonged to a parent or spouse, a child or lover, a best friend or relative, it is empty now, and its emptiness represents a task for you.  To accomplish this task is to become better accustomed to living with that empty chair.  When you no longer fear it or revere it, but can simply accept it, you will know that you are completing your grief work.

~ Roberta Temes, Ph.D.
Bereavement Counselor