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When
I first read this poem, I was married. I didn't understand it,
nor did I like it. In fact, I really didn't like it.
It had no relevance to me. I was supposedly happily married at the time.
After my divorce, I began to understand it's meaning.
I came to realize that it is about inner strength, and learning that women
have to learn not to depend on a man, or anyone else, for their happiness
and fulfillment. I learned that in everyone's life there are good-byes
of one kind or another. We are always saying good-bye.
Spouses let us down; spouses disappoint us; spouses don't keep promises.
Spouses and other loved ones die.
Friends move away; friendships cool, and children grow up and leave home.
They begin their own lives and aren't so much a part of ours anymore.
Some stay close to us, some don't.
Parents do the best they can, but most of us have some scars and issues from
childhood.
Eventually, they leave us, also.
So,
we have to build our own world, plan our own lives, and learn not to
depend on anyone else except God. Most of all, we realize that we can survive
if we are strong. Then, anything that comes along to make us
happy is just icing on the cake.
"After
a While"
"After a while you
learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company isn't security.
(Kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises.)
After awhile you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open,
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain
and the inevitable has a way of crumbling in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you stand too long in one place.
So, you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone else to bring you flowers.
And you learn you really can endure,
that you really do have worth.
You learn that with every good-bye comes the dawn."
Author Unknown
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Who wrote "Comes
the Dawn"??? It is an ongoing dispute. I had first credited this poem it to Veronica Shofftall. I received an e-mail from someone telling me that Veronica wrote it. There have been several versions of this poem. Usually it is attributed to "Unknown" because there is no official copyright owned by anyone. Before you write to tell me that this poem was written by Veronica Shofftall, please read an e-mail that I got from Judith Evans in September of 2004. (By the way, her e-mail address is now invalid) Pay close attention to the wording and spelling. Would a learned person and fluid poet say "there own spin"? "Just thought you'd like to know, Comes
the Dawn (sometimes called "After a While", or "You Learn")
was written by ME a loooong time ago. decades and decades! You see it
in many forms, usually attributed to someone, often a "Veronica
Shofftall" and supposedly even copyrighted by her. (She even included
it in a self
Not that it makes any difference now. I just wanted to let you know, for the record, because it was on your site.
Judith B. Evans Now, before you believe that
Judith Evans wrote it, read my reply below, and the information Judith, Most recently I got an e-mail from a man named Lorenzo saying that Jorge Luis Borges (August 24, 1899 June 14, 1986), who was an Argentine writer and considered one of the foremost literary figures of the 20th century, wrote a poem titled "Y Uno Aprende" which he says was translated by the others who claim it. On August 30, 2007, I got another e-mail saying Borges wrote it. You can read a huge argument
over who wrote it on The mystery deepens. Since there is no proof, I say the author is Unknown and Unproven. Actually, the only thing that matters is that the
poem has been meaningful to hundreds, if not thousands,
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