GOOD ADVICE FOR PARENTS OF TEENS

(From an article by Clarence DeLoach, Jr. in “The Edifier”)

A juvenile probation officer in Texas actually interviewed teens on their way to reform school and asked them, “What could your parents have done to help you?” Here are the top ten responses.

Parents, keep your cool. Stay calm & don’t lose your temper.
Parents, do not get hung up on jobs or activities that keep you away from home. Keep in touch somehow & be around to supervise your children.
Parents, stay away from alcohol & drugs (even things like sleeping pills).
Parents, use strict, loving discipline. Show the kids who is boss, they really do want it this way, even though they may complain.
Parents, keep your dignity. Don’t try to dress, act, or swing like the teens do.
Parents, show your children your faith. Give them the security of a living faith.
Parents, share your kids’ problems. Talk to them about morals, life, love, eternity, beauty, peace of mind, & values. Help them believe that the world is a good place in which to live.
Parents, punish when your child first goes wrong, tell them why, & convince them that more severe measures will come if it happens again. But don’t punish in anger.
Parents, call your kids’ bluffs. Stand firm on what is right, even when the kid threatens to run away, become a delinquent, or drop out of school. Hang in there and the bluffing with cease in 98% of the cases.
Parents, be honest with your kids. Tell the truth all the time. Praise them when you see good.

And if your Make a Note editor may add a note…always let your kids know that you love them no matter what. You can’t remind them of this too often.